New, with a SLEEPOVER question
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|Tue, 01-10-2006 - 5:55pm|
Hi all! I'm new to this board, although not new to i-Village. A quick intro before my dilemma - My DH and I have been married 9years and we have a 6yo DD together. My DH also has a 14yo DD from a previous relationship. DD's birthday is in November and she's in Kindergarten. I'm really excited to find this board! I've been reading the other posts and responses here and this seems like a nice and informative place to be!
On to my question...
My 6yo DD, Lily, has never been on a sleepover. Is that abnormal?
The reason I'm asking is that Friday night I received a phone call from the father of one of Lily's classmates. He has an older DD (8yo I think) who was having a friend sleepover the following night and his younger DD (5yo and in Lily's Kindy class) wanted Lily to spend the night, too. I was really caught off guard as we were in the middle of dinner. I should mention that although Lily plays with this little girl at school, she has never had a playdate outside of school with her and that we have only met her parents a couple of times at school functions. Lily hasn't even slept over with other family members as my parents are not physically well enough to care for her (their words not ours) and my DH's family lives far away.
I explained to the father that Lily hasn't been on a sleepover before and that we weren't quite comfortable with that yet, but that we would LOVE for his DD to come for a playdate next week (they are off school for Martin Luther King Day). Well, the father seemed totally shocked that Lily had never been on a sleepover before. "Really, you're kidding?" he said. Then he asked ME to explain to his DD why Lily couldn't come, and he put her on the phone. I was shocked that he did that - I would NEVER ask another parent to do that. I felt just horrible telling that sweet little girl, in essence, exactly what I told her Daddy. She was so quiet and just said "okay.".
Anyway, now I'm left wondering if we are totally overprotective, neurotic parents. We don't know this family other than to say "Hello" at school functions. Lily has never been to their house. They seem like a nice famly and their DD is a sweet girl.
So, was I out of line nixing the sleepover? Have any of you dealt with this before? How did you handle it?