playdates

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:42am

My son has made friends with a new boy at school.

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In reply to: momof22009
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 4:04pm
I don't have any advice, my DD is 6, 7 in May, & hasn't had many playdates yet. I am actually about to set up our first one with a girl in her class, and wondereded what the etiquette was on that. I suggested taking them to a public place, we have a few great play places that are indoors in our area, and going there I assume she would come also. I guess I will wait & see.
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In reply to: momof22009
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 6:36pm

There really isn't an etiquette, more or less.

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In reply to: momof22009
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 9:56pm
I think our, my DH & I, biggest problem is trust. How do you know who is OK to leave your child with? What if it is in a public place & they aren't really paying attention? I have been on outings with others Mom's & had to stop their child from wandering off, if they had mine too, how likely is it they would pay attention to mine, if they aren't paying attention to their own? This is honestly only 1 Mom, but you get my point. There are a lot of Moms that I know from my DD's girl scout troop that I would have no problem leaving her with, but I just don't know any of the school Mom's well enough. *sigh* This is just a hard age. They want to start being independent, and I don't want to explain why I need to be there (& scare her), and yes I am rather over protective, but my child is a very free spirit, and likes to do her own thing, & is a kid who would wander off.
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In reply to: momof22009
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 5:21pm
At parks or other public places the parents stay. At a house, once they are out of kindergarten it is generally drop off. At least that has been my experience with my older son.

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In reply to: momof22009
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 5:32pm

One thing that worked for us was to trade off play dates right after school. I would pick up the kids from school and take them back to my house and next time she would pick up both kids. the first time we did this I think I said something along the lines of why don't I pick up both kids right after school and then I can bring A back to the school when its time to pick up the older kids. That way they will get a couple of hours playing alone and you don't have to come up to the school twice. The mom gave a note to the teacher saying A was coming home with me that day, so the teacher released both kids to me at pick up.

With my son (who is older) it was a little harder to start the solitary playdates. Part of that was because he was friends with a group of kids who were the older siblings so the moms were a bit nervous about starting solitary playdates. We actually started around the winter holidays as a way to get some holiday shopping done without the kids along. After that first time it became easier.

I think it might be easier to suggest something along the lines of why don't we have x over on Thursday right after school and you can come get him at 4pm or if it would be easier for you we can drop him off.

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In reply to: momof22009
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 10:54am

Thank you!!

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In reply to: momof22009
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 10:38pm
I hope it works out for you, let us know how she takes the suggestion.

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In reply to: momof22009
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 3:11pm
My girl is 7 and she has always been very social. She has no problem making friends, which is wonderful. I was always shy.
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In reply to: momof22009
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 1:37pm
I know I am a little late in responding to this..but did youe ver think maybe she does not feel like she knows you well enough yet to leave her son?

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