Poor Gillian!

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Poor Gillian!
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 12:07am

She has been having a really hard time with one of her friends at school. She became friends with this boy named Mark around Christmas time. I mean they have been fast friends, stuck at the hip, exchanging friendship bracelet kind of friends.

A couple of weeks ago she told me that Mark said he didn't want to be her friend any more because she wants to play with some other friends and he doesn't want her to play with anyone except for him (hmm....this has had me somewhat concerned... controlling at this age?...)

Anyway, they seemed to have patched it up, but the other day I found Gillian in her closet, crying her eyes out because Mark asked her to give back her friendship bracelet he had made for her..(in Sunday school, no less) She hasn't been able to find it..but it's one of those on-off friendships lately.

Today she said he wanted his bracelet back again (there was a time when she wore it every day and now we still can't find it).

I've had several talks with her about friendships, how he isn't being a very good friend right now and how it's ok to play with other people, she has to learn to make her own choices about who she wants to be friends with and not let someone tell her who she can play with, etc, etc.

Hard lessons for a 6 year old.

Lynn

Lynn
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 10:31am
Aww, poor Gillian. That must be so hard. Glad she didn't listen to him and still wanted to play with her other friends. Hard to believe first graders would be that way, normally they like everyone. I couldn't imagine Brionna playing with just one friend all the time and not playing with anyone else, can't be good for social skills either. Do you know the parents of the little boy? Wonder what they would think if they knew what was going on? Sounds like he needs to have a talking to about friendships. Good luck with this, hope Gillian can deal with this and understand that she can't have just one friend, she should have lots and lots to play with. Hope you can find the bracelet to give it back.
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Sat, 04-22-2006 - 12:41am
Poor sweetie pie!

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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 2:38pm
Poor baby! That is hard to learn. If it helps, girls with girls are the same and boys with boys.....they all want to be the main attraction! LOL!! How are things going with him now? Did you find the bracelet? It's terrible that he wants it back...TYPICAL! *wink*

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