All three of my sons have been diagnosed with ADHD. Do I believe it? Yeah probably so, but I don't medicate, I teach instead. I except that my boys do have a whole lot of energy, but yes I also probably am not as strict as I should be(so my husband says). I am pretty strict, I just don't always react the same all of the time not consistant I guess is what you could say. My 17 and 15 year old have made it and are a whole lot calmer than they used to be. My 7 year old is still hyper as ever. I do watch him with other children and yes he definitly has a lot more energy and he doesn't stay on task as well as others. I wouldn't be surprised if someone diagnosed me as ADHD, but I made it and am still making it. Sometimes I think that people need to except children for how they are, discipline, but don't expect that they are all the same! I just feel that you can train a lot of children to train their brain instead of medicate. The medicine has side effects and sometimes is a controlled substance, that to me is very scary!
I agree that you can train the brain to respond differently to situations. I do believe that SOME children really DO need Meds, but I feel we overmedicate our children way too much and often. I, too, prefer that we teach children how to teach themselves to identify stimuli and how to respond to it rather than react to it. Hats off to you for doing it at home!
Thanks for sharing your life with us. It means so much when it comes from the heart. =)
Thanks, it's always nice to know someone out there understands, instead of just giving me the look!
I have been thinking about this question for a few days. Here's what I think.
I think *most* diagnoses of ADD/HD today are false. Yes, I believe there are genuine instances of ADDHD disorder, and those children need special attention. I am a huge believer in redirection/behavior modification training, like Staci does with her boys, before medicating. When Gillian was in 1st grade her teacher told me to have her tested for ADD/HD and possible medication. I refused. Gillian is active, but she didn't fit any of the benchmarks for an ADD diagnosis.
The other personal experience I have is my oldest DD's 1/2brother. He has been on medication for ADD/HD most of his life. He's 16 and he's been medicated since at least 2nd grade. DD says it depresses him and he walks around like a zombie. I don't believe the parents have tried any special classes/tutoring/behavior training at all and it infuriates me and makes me sad for DD's brother.
I believe the reason for the huge increase in diagnosis is the school system's refusal to teach differently. In today's society children are so stimulated by television, game consoles, cell phones, movies, music, traffic noise, etc. that their brains are literally wired differently than when today's system of education was established 100 years ago.
Children don't all learn the same way. I just read that book about multiple intelligences in children. There are so many different ways to learn, we all have our own strengths and weaknesses, but the school system is not equipped to teach to different strengths. Some learn best sitting at a desk with a workbook (visual), some, prefer to stand up, touch manipulatives, sing, talk to him/herself, read out loud, etc. This does not fit a traditional school style. This isn't ADD, it's bodily/kinesthetic, a different style.The only way teachers can get 20-30 students to sit at a desk and all be visual learners is to medicate them. Great, teach our kids that the only solution to a "problem" is to take drugs.
BTW, I pulled Gillian out of public school, we homeschool. We take breaks when she needs them, teach in methods that fit her style and she loves learning!!! No medication needed!
My almost 8 yr old was dx with ADHD 2 yrs ago, in kindergarten. He is SUCH a picky eater that alternating his diet was hard, but I tried. He has very poor impulse control and his hands are all over everybody and everything. School was torture for him until he got put on meds. Obviously they slow him down, but his handwriting is a mess without it. About the question of adults being in control, (or however that was worded, I forgot to C&P, sorry) I really don't know. Wouldn't all kids in the family have it? We're questioning our 6 1/2 yr old, but she is SO different from Nick so maybe she's just stubborn LOL My 3 yr old has autism so I'm no help there either ;-) I guess in some instances it can played as an excuse, like "oh he can't help it, he has ADHD" That's something I will not tolerate. We do not excuse any of their 'bad' behavior with whatever dx we may or may not have. JMO.
About the question of adults being in control, (or however that was worded, I forgot to C&P, sorry) I really don't know. Wouldn't all kids in the family have it?
I was talking more about the teachers having a lack of classroom control more so than parents at home. =) I'm glad you're finding what helps your family! It's better to be certain that to keep guessing...the kids suffer that way. What a good mom you are!