Regressing....??

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Registered: 01-01-2008
Regressing....??
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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 10:14pm

My daughter is 6...and she is well potty trained, have been for years now. And usually I see regression when a child has a sibling and then they go back to that baby stage and usually when they are toddlers. And I try not to put all my problems and my daughter's issues on our situation with her dad. But she has started to wet herself at night. What could it be? Is she regressing? She has no siblings...or is it emotional issues? Laziness? Because she is fine during the day and she does it more so if she is sleeping in her room. But if she sleeps with me, she is fine. So could it be something about being alone or her room maybe? Is she afraid of something?


I feel so bad because I don't get it. I dont want to hurt her feelings but we are to old to be wetting the bed. I honestly do not think that she has a medical issue because it just started. I ask her why she doesnt go to the bathroom but she ignores me or looks at me with a blank face. Maybe she doesnt realize that she is using it on herself?


I don't know. But now I am afraid to let her stay

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:19am

I would be very worried also, you are a good mom to be concerned.

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 8:41am

It never hurts to have her checked out at the doctor in case she's developing a bladder infection or something like that. It's the first step I'd take even if I was sure that wasn't the problem. If it's not medical, it could be trauma. Has anything recently happened to her that you don't know of?


I would restrict liquids a couple hours before bed and enforce her using the bathroom before lying down. Talk to her while doing something like brushing her hair or painting nails.... something calm and reassuring.

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Registered: 01-01-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 9:46am

She has a doctor's appointment today after school. She's been exposed to abuse (her father was abusive) and I am in the process of making sure that dad is out of the house for good. I think that it may be a security thing. Since dad is gone she sleeps with me sometimes....and she doesn't wet herself. But when she sleeps in her own bed she does..


So I am going to see what the doctor says as well as speaking to her about how she's feeling and so on, and then move on from there.


Thanks!

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 10:29am
Good luck at the doctor.

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Registered: 06-01-1999
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 4:41pm

I was hoping abuse wasn't present. Wetting the bed is a very common reaction to abuse. Is she getting any therapy for this? She really should with someone who knows how to work with abused children.