son saw dad masturbating

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Registered: 09-08-2007
son saw dad masturbating
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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 6:10pm
My seven year old son walked in on my husband masturbating in the bedroom. Because my son saw him come, he continuously asks why daddy pees white stuff and he pees yellow and isn't allowed to pee in the bedroom like daddy is. I know that it was completely iresponsible of us to allow this to happen, but we are trying to deal with it the best we can. how do we answer these questions?
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Registered: 08-23-2007
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 4:47pm
I hope I dont sound rude, but did your husband notice him walk in? If the door was closed and your son opened it, wouldnt he have heard? If so, how in the world could he have finished? Gosh I am of no help.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 12:32am

Honestly, I would go ahead and give an abbreviated sex talk. And remember-- what your dh was doing is normal; your son isn't scarred for life. But the reason daddy was doing something with his whatsit (we use the correct names in our house) is b/c it feels good, and yet, that's not something to do in front of others, just on our own, in privacy. Lots of good themes (privacy, body feeling good, what to do in front of others, who should be allowed to touch your son, who shouldn't). I would try to focus on how normal it is, so don't be freaked, and find some lego-building, not eyeball to eyeball, time to talk about this.

HTH or something else is posted that does : )