Son Says He is Not Cool

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Son Says He is Not Cool
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Wed, 03-07-2007 - 11:00am
I am really hoping someone can help me with my son who just turned 7 in November. I should also mention that I just had a baby who is now 6 months. Anyways me and my son have many arguments over school work - Shane just doesn't want to work at anything - he hates doing homework - he hates reading - he doesn't try at anything he does except for video games. He has been in hockey this past year and doesn't even move on the ice just doesn't care. Anyways the other night we had an argument and I was yelling at him about his school work and not completing it at school and he was crying. This always happens with our arguments. Then comes a whole load of things about how people are mean to him at school - make fun of his nose running all the time - call him grose. Then he starts going on how he is a bad boy and brings up how he isn't cool. I asked him who said you weren't cool and he told me a boy at school (who is a trouble maker anyways and I don't care for) and some of the kids at school make him so angry he would like to blow them up. I was so shocked and yelled initially at him and was unsympathetic - I was more angry that he does this when he is getting in trouble and brings all of this stuff into something that isn't about that. Other times he is well adjusted - a good kid who just isn't motivated to do alot but he has never talked to me about his before - I ask him lots of times how is school going and how are things - he always seems okay. But he seemed so angry it bothered me. I am concerned wondering does he need some counselling i is there more than he is saying?? I wanted to phone the teacher I just didn't know if I am being too over protective. The other end we just don't know what to do with him - he is a good kid but he doesn't work at anything he does except for the video games, pees all over the floor when he goes to the washroom, doesn't flush the toilet, never comes when he is called, throws his clothes on the floor and doesn't pick them up, and my husband's worst doesn't sit properly at the table. I have tired to explain to my husband - this is normal behaviour I think for a 7 year old boy but he doesn't think so. Please someone help - I am so upst and depressed today I just feel so bad for him that he thinks he isn't cool - he is a great kid - funny, caring, affectionate and I know that doesn't change him wanting to be cool. I just don't know if there is more to this or what?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 11:28am

Parenthood is such a tough job! It is filled with worry, demands and lack of self care. All of this can produce a pretty serious atmosphere in the home.

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