What makes a child act obnoxious? (m)

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Registered: 12-08-2005
What makes a child act obnoxious? (m)
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 11:26am

my 6yo dd gets overexcited alot & acts very obnoxious. that in turn gets my 3yo going & its getting unbearable & embarrassing. i get down on their level & tell them "obnoxious is never funny nor cute. i don't want others to think you girls are annoying & not want to be around us". etc. etc. etc. by obnoxious i mean loud, rowdy, & show-offy. kids like that have always gotten on my nerves & here i'm raising some!
how can i stop it now before the get any older?
p.s. it's not just me they are annoying. last year K teacher made the comment that when she gets excited, she gets "overbearing". NOT COOL.
help?

kh

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 12:54pm

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 4:47pm

Whenever Gillian is getting too loud I suggest a new activity, redirecting her to something less stimulating. Sometimes I tell her to take a deep breath and settle down. This usually helps *me* cope. I say *helps me cope* because I am the one annoyed, she's just having a good time and usually not bothering anyone else.

Lynn

Lynn
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Registered: 05-15-2003
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 8:44pm
When my son was the age of your older child, we had the same issues. I talked with him about it and made sure he understood what the inappropriate behavior was. Then, if he started to get out of control in a situation, we would remind him by just saying "self-control" and he would usually be able to check his own behavior and calm down quickly, if not, we would remove him from the situation. We are teaching our 6 1/2 year daughter the same things right now. I, too, am extremely sensitive to my child being pleasant for others to be around. Having taught school for so many years before our son was born, I had observed that children whose behavior was unpleasant to those around them were left out when there were party or sleepover invitations. It is much better to take the time to teach appropriate behavior than to deal with the consequences, for sure.
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 1:37pm

for instance this morning my girls were 'showing off' for their cousins who are staying with us for the holidays & at one point the cousins didn't laugh at my 6yo's antics & my 6yo said "oh, that wasn't funny... no one laughed". she gets rowdy b/c she likes the reaction of others. if the others would just tell her to settle down like i do, then she might stop.

kh