Who was NOT happy to go to school?

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Who was NOT happy to go to school?
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 12:33pm
I tell you getting Tre to school is getting to be a chore. I know there's been so much going on with the beginning of the year blues (the whole teacher thing) but WOW! I just want him to WANT to go rather than me talking him into it. I decided to make games for the class....ones to play when work is done, and activities to do once a week with hands on materials rather than just paper and pencil.

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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 1:13pm

Oh that's hard. Derek didn't want to go to school last year and I was pretty worried about him, academically. But, you know, it has really turned around this year and now he loves to go to school. I think, for him, it was a combination of my letting go a little of being a 'make sure you get your homework done' kind of mom and him getting a really terrific teacher this year. We had so much drama over doing homework last year. Derek just didn't want to do it! And I was always like, 'but you have to - everyone does homework.' He was completely resisting me. So this year I have taken a different tact. I remind him to do his homework, but I don't nag him about it. He is responsible for it. One time he said he wasn't going to do it and I just said, "Okay." But then I told him that of course I would have to write a little note to his teacher and explain that Derek had CHOSEN not to do his homework. I told Derek that I didn't want his teacher to think that I was a bad mom who didn't give her child an opportunity to get it done.

Derek was aghast that his teacher might get a 'note,' and so I have never had to write it. And he does his homework really well now. But I have completely backed off of him. It is his deal now, which is as I think it should be.

But I digress! This sounds like a different situation for Tre - he really did have a tough start to the year as I remember you telling us. I love how willing you are to jump in and get involved to make it fun for him. What games are you doing? I would love to hear more about them. This is actually the reason that I am the class 'party mom.' I wanted to be involved with Derek's class in a way that made it fun for Derek. So he gets to help plan the parties.

I'm sorry you are frustrated. I know (from my experience last year) how that goes. But I think you are doing the right thing. Hang in there!

Susan :)

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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 9:57pm
Well, DS dislikes going to school as well. I can't say that I blame him, it is a very strict school and they are so negative. Plus he has to work really hard and has a lot of tutoring. And all this because the school is teaching 2nd grade material to grade 1 kids! And is so proud of it. So, we are changing schools next year and I will be happy to get away from this school.
I do some homework with DS, but if he doesn't know some words in reading(and they are getting some pretty difficult books for homework) I just read it to him and have him repeat. I am worried about him hating the school forever, and don't want to make an issue so that next year he can approach the new school differently.
It is my opinion that many of schools are just worried about being A schools, and being "ahead" schools that they forget that school is supposed to be a place kids enjoy.
Anyway, every morning DS is tired and doesn't want to get dressed and drags around, and now my DD(4yrs) is getting her clues from her big brother.
I just think it is time in todays age to move away from the rigid school system that was set up almost 300 years ago and that makes kids hate school.
I totally know how my DS feels, I didn't like school until college even though I was A student in everything.
I know this isn't helping you much, but thanks for giving me the opportinity to vent about my kid's school.
Ana
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 11:06pm
Thanks, Susan. You give me hope! LOL! I'll just keep trying to spark some fun from my end, I guess. Sad, really....but I'll do it! =)

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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 11:09pm

I'm glad you got to vent, Ana. It's hard to hold it in, I know. I am so torn between natural consequences....which I don't think it would phase him until he was left behind all of his freinds (and mommy is NOT going ot let that happen, KWIM?) UG! I jsut wish learning would be fun and not such a notch on the belt of excellent testing.


I thank you for your post!

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Tue, 12-13-2005 - 12:02am

I totally understand how you feel. In fact, I seriously looked in to homeschooling my son. I went so far as to buy several books, checked out the truancy laws in our state and contacted the school about what I needed to do to notify them properly. I did it for my son's medical reasons. But as it turned out, those medical issues resolved themselves enough that I didn't feel school would be too difficult. But I was actually quite excited about homeschooling for a while. I do think that sometimes it is the better option. Not always, but sometimes.

Susan

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