grandparents and coaches

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Registered: 09-12-2003
grandparents and coaches
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Fri, 05-24-2013 - 6:57am

Alright so my dad used to coach softball. I never played so can't say how he was. DS had the same coach for 2 years. Papa didn't like him too soft, wasn't teaching them how to play. That coaches son moved up so he isn't coaching so new team new coach. This one is a yeller. Now he does stress fundementals and DS has learned a lot this year but last night was the first full game my dad watch and Papa don't care for this coach either. DS struck out second at bat. Coach was yelling entire at bad, do this, stop that, you have to swing at those. Now DS does get anxiety and he has ADHD and in practice he can hit but in a game with everyone yelling and telling him things he can get overwhelmed. Well my dad was all upset that coach intiminated him. At the end of game he even told DS don't listen to that guy. Meanwhile DH and I were just happy he handled the strike out well. He tends to get mad or upset and this coach doesn't allow that. You pout or cry and you will sit on bench. If he learns not to get upset over striking out or getting out then this coach has taught him something we have tried for 3 years! He gets enough hand holding in school maybe tough love will do them good. This was also a bad night for DS. I knew it the night before. He couldn't sleep, has a school project due, we have been getting thunder storms, DH and I were fighting earlier this week; all things working his anxiety plus he was tired. He has good games and bad and papa was at a not so good one (we have had worse) but I have a feeling I might suggest to the league along with parent code of conduct that reminds us to let coach and umps do their job, they need a grandparent one. And yes he has critics the umps too :)

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 05-24-2013 - 11:03pm

That would be hard to have a grandparent say not to listen to a coach. Glad your ds handled it so well!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 12-16-2001
Mon, 05-27-2013 - 11:53am

Even a STAR major league-er has a batting average only in the .300's.  That means almost 70% of the time they're at bat, they get put out.  If they cried/pouted/stomped around every time that happened, they wouldn't be where they are today!  LOL. 

That's small consolation for a kid at bat, though, and it is a tough lesson to learn.  My dd played softball through HS & even as a senior was pouting & stomping after a strikeout!  Good job for your DS handling it so well!

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Sat, 06-01-2013 - 8:07pm

Oh he had no clue what papa was talking about and papa can't hear well so they each had a different conversation :)

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Sat, 06-01-2013 - 8:11pm

They got that talk at practice a week or so ago. They were doing good but had 2 bad losses this week and its not just DS. 1st lost the other team came from behind and tied it and then shut us down and each one up took it hard. Today it was just hot, we had to wait 30 min for an ump and first one up was also our picher who gave up 4 runs and he got caught stealing second and lost it. DS only made it up once which might have been good.

 

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