no more trophy jut for participating

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Registered: 09-12-2003
no more trophy jut for participating
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 7:57am

So we finally had the baseball banguet the other day and this is his second year in the minors. In clinic they keep score but don't track records offically so there is no over all winner. Last year we finished second to last and the first place team also won the city series/playoffs (we used to have 2 leagues in city so top 2 teams in each had a play off now its top 4 teams battle for the city series trophy) so they got a bigger trophy and everyone else got the same trophy that the tpall and clinic got. This year his team won the division but lost in the city series. Now not sure what was behind the decision to only give certicates and not trophies for participation but don't think everyone was happy about it. We got one for finishing first and the team that one the city series got one too and there are league trophies they did the formal presention with the names added on. I get my kid got a trophy so of course we don't feel slighted but wondering if its a money issue or a tough love you don't get a trophy just for showing up thing. DS would have been upset if he didn't get one but I have 5 participation trophys for him alone and running out of room for them and with another boy just starting out what do I need a trophy room for particiapation trophies ;0

What did bother me some is I am going to assume coaches were warned of this (our coach is moving so since he isn't planning on coaching next year he didn't attend any meetings) and same night as banguet was DS parent night at school. SO I did that and DH did baseball and I was suprised to see a classmate who was on the team DS team eliminated from the playoffs there. His dad is a coach and they tend to be very competive I am better then you. DH is clueless to other parents or coaches unless they are on or were on our team so he has no clue if the dad was there and I only saw his mom at the school (was working PTO table so didn't get to talk to her) and the dad is a fireman so very possible he had to work but unless he had to cover last minuet can't see how no one would cover for him even for a few hours to attend and just have this nasty feeling they didn't go because they weren't getting a trophy; last year their team won it all and were undeafted. Sorry thats not good sportsmanship to me....

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 9:25am
No, its not good sportmanship and they are definitely not doing their kids any favors by acting that way. I do agree that the participation trophies and stuff are a bit ridiculous. Yes, its great that the participated and all, but to teach kids that they are going to always get something for it, other than the joy of being on a team and learning the sport, the rules and good sportsmanship is just doing them a disservice. I was helping with field day one year with my oldest and I was chatting with her gym teacher and he said the worst thing they did was implement the everyone gets a trophy standard, kids lost the ability to learn how to be good sports and to win and lose gracefully.
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Registered: 09-12-2003
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 12:40pm

I have some old schools guys at work there kids were in sport or just ended before the everyone gets one thing started. Think the issue is if they want to take this approach they need to relook how they handle it in the younger leagues. If you go through tball and clinic and get a throphy and then minors you limit it its shell shock. I get giving it to the little ones. Here we keep no score, you don't even make outs, its getting kids used to playing on a team and getting some basics of the sport.The look on their faces when they see that trophy is still innocent and not greedy. Maybe move over to certificates in clinic and then when scores and standing matters re bring in trophies. I know easy for me my kid got one so I wasn't dealing with disapoinment but as someone who has dealt with this everyone gets a trophy generation in the workplace its amazing. They come in do bare minimum and expect praise. Really had one recent college grad make a stink when an old time employee had gotten an award for going the extra mile on a project and he goes where is my reward. Supervisor told him its  his weekly pay check.

Anyway I am making an assumption on this one kid but just seems odd. They were BIG into baseball since tball just seems odd for them not to go.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Tue, 10-01-2013 - 7:58am

I am not a fan of everyone gets a trophy either. This whole thing seems odd.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Mon, 10-07-2013 - 7:26am

well they finally put up the pictures on website and sure enought the coach/dad was there but of course no son. Now they do the banguet in fall many months after baseball ends so there are always attendance issues but this one team had only 4 kids show. Everyone else had at least half a team. We were missing kids but with school in session and fall sports kids do have other commitments but again who picks parent night at school over a baseball banguet unless you are sore over losing...

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 10-07-2013 - 11:16pm

That is too bad.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!