would you let him play?

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Registered: 09-12-2003
would you let him play?
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Wed, 02-27-2013 - 7:11am

My 9 year is having surgery on april 1st. We've known this was coming for years and before we met with our dr in January was reading up on line and some had a 6 week no sports so we were thinking baseball is definately out. The surgery is on his gum. He is getting bone from his hip implanted into his gum because of cleft. His dr only restriction is NO CHEWING for 6 weeks. She said while getting hit in the face can be risky it would do less damage then chewing. When he feels up to it he can resume normal activity. Now when we met with her DS was ok with not playing baseball, we had pre warned him but then last night when discussing signing my youngest up he said he wants to!!

So surgery is april 1st and baseball will start about 2 weeks after. He has a high tolerance for pain and this is surgery number 5 so we have a good idea is overall bounce back. The no chew causes some issue but I fully expect him in school after 3 weeks (school vacation is 2 weeks after surgery). generally most coaches get them practicing week of school vacation with games starting after the following weekend. If we do it I intend to fully disclose on registration form about the surgery. His coach from last 2 years isn't coaching so its a hit or miss if we will get an understanding coach (we have doosies) We play until end of June so I know by middle to end of season he will be his old self and I just hate this interupting his life more then it needs to but then I am worried not only about getting hit in face by a freak accident (was going to beg coach just stick him in way left field especially early in season no kid ever gets it that far out) but then I was worrying which hip would he be sliding on that hip or maybe I am just being over panicky

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 02-27-2013 - 11:42pm

That is a tough. I am not sure. Can you speak to the doctor a bit more?

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Thu, 02-28-2013 - 6:59am

last sign ups are Saturday and try outs are next Saturday and we don't see her again until later in month and currently playing phone tag with surgical coordinator over something else..

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 02-28-2013 - 4:39pm
Could you request a special faceguard for him to wear, or purchase one yourselves as a precaution? This would be one of those decisions I would defer to my DH just because he has been in contact sports all his life and he was an army medic, so he would have a better grasp of things.
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Fri, 03-01-2013 - 7:00am

They have a faceguard which is common in fast pitch (aka girls soft ball) and I I knew another mom who's DD had same surgery and they used the faceguard. Now I know league and coaches would have no issue, but I don't think DS would wear it. He doesn't like to stand out like that. Course now he is flipping again and he doesn't want to play. Think he is nervous in general about his surgery so thinking he will take season off. He can help little brothers tball team and when he is feeling up to it we can do some pitching lessons or something. Then again he could change his mind again. Going to see who from league is at sign ups and explain that situation and see if we can do a late sign up if he feels up to it.

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Fri, 03-01-2013 - 4:16pm
I think that sounds like a good compromise. Though i may tell him, while I completely understand not wanting to stand out for any reason, the faceguard is for safety sake only and that ultimately is the most imporant thing. Sometimes we need to forget about standing out.
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Mon, 03-04-2013 - 7:01am

well Saturday was decision day and he is all signed up and like DH keeps reminding me in 4 years he has not come close to getting hit in the face (still suggesting he play WAY outfield Wink) Also hoping we get a coach we know and there is one coach I hope we don't get because he is not the type to be understanding to missing the first few weeks. Practice will start 3rd week after surgery. Until we get ok from Dr he can't play; if we have an understanding coach DS can still go feel like part of the team and observe until we get all clear.

Oh and we signed the 4 year old up for tball...what are we thinking we will be at the park 24/7!! and my nephew is playing but they are next town over so my parents will be spending just as much time. Glad I got a new lawn chair with hood!!

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Mon, 03-04-2013 - 3:17pm
LOL Good luck!! I always wonder how in the world parents with two kids, two kids closer in age, and especially ones that do completely different sports, juggle it all!
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Wed, 03-06-2013 - 7:40am

I can't imagine. think its partly because I work full time too but I could never imagine kids doing more then 1 activity at once. We have a one sport/activity per season rule. Now technically its 2 because he does karate but thats tied into an after school program. so he goes from 2:30 to 5:30 and during that time along with karate he does homework, and other semi organized activities and his afterschool at the school has enrichment classes and even my preschooler must of the preschools I checked out that go past 3 have those options so my kids are getting it but still boggles my mind when I hear other mom's I knew, some who work full time too, who have packed schedules. I could never but I imagine if I was home I would need to do SOMETHING at least 1 day a week...

This year we will be lucky and next year too because little one is just in tball so generally 1 game a week and somtimes 1 practice depends on coach but usually its 50/50 with kids who have older siblings playing and they get that. Games are usually either Saturday or Sunday morning an since the 2 leagues merge all tball games go on at once at various parks and they get the 9am games. Earliest game older one has had in minors is 10am. DH may have to miss some of little ones game to get older one to practice before a game but they won't play at once. When little one can move up to clinic THEN that will be fun juggling both games and practices. Guess if they were closer in age and in same level they'd be on same team (they do keep siblings together) but mine are 5 years apart. DS coach last year has a big age difference in kids and his oldest was on the high school JV team so he would hold practice at a field adacent to where high school played so he could still see some of the game. Was cute the whole team would cheer on his son.

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Wed, 03-06-2013 - 10:51am
I always had that rule with my oldest one also. Though for a few years she actually did 4 activities, but 2 were at school during the afterschool program, girl scouts and dance, and then she did gymnastics in the evenings which was year round, and she did piano lessons for 9 months, but the teacher came to the house one night a week, so if didn't really feel like an activity per se. But all in all I am hoping to stick with that with teh little ones when they actually get involved with stuff. The middle one did kung fu for 18 months while at daycare and the little one keeps asking to do dance, but finances are still tight this year, so we're waiting and will put her in it next fall.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 6:31pm

It is hard with kids in many activities. Logistics is a big piece of the puzzle. We live so close to schools and parks it made it easy.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!