12 yr old home alone

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Registered: 09-27-1999
12 yr old home alone
Tue, 06-26-2012 - 11:42am


 I am looking for some advice/opinions on this issue. My ds is 12 and lately has not wanted to come with me if I have to run errands, take younger ds somewhere, etc... I don't mind if I am only gone an hr. or so but I do not feel comfortable leaving him long perionds of time like more than 2 hrs. He's a good kid but still, I personally think too long alone is not good.

  Now that it is summer vacation, he wants to hang with friends, play video games, etc... and does not want to do the things younger ds does or go visiting cousins ( he thinks it is boring) My 2 boys are 5 1/2 yrs apart. The 12 yr old is giving me a hard time whenever we make plans to go somewhere. Once in a while I asked one of his friends parents to check in on him but I will not do that too often, I don't feel it is right plus then ds thinks he will never have to go!

  How long if you do, leave your 12 yr old home alone? Just wondering. Thanks! It is going to be a long summer!!

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 11:22pm
My son is 12 and I leave him home for a quick trip but not too long. He is very responsible but I dont think he should be alone for long periods which would prob mean sitting in front of the tv or video game even though he isnt a heavy watcher. He will complain sometimes but actually always has fun when he gets somewhere. I think its an age thing- he is whinier at 12 than he was at 2:smileyhappy:. I definitely dont leave him with a friend. I know a few parents recently who left 12 year olds alone who came home to trouble- not my sons friends lucky but you never know what they will come up with. Plus with access to so much more on the computer its a little different than when I was that age and babysitting.

Some states have laws about ages they can be left one, I think.