Need Some Advice

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Need Some Advice
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Thu, 04-26-2012 - 9:09pm

My DS got in a fight defending himself. The school policy is both the children involved have in school suspension. So while in ISS he met a girl. He started dating her (he and she are 12). I thought it was innocent, but I always check DS Facebook and Cell phone and have found things I feel very innapropriate. First she has very flirty

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 11:44am

I never checked my kids' TMs but honestly if I had found what you have, then I would be checking constantly!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2001
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 10:12am
Question 1: He says no parents check their child's text messages.....So the Question is how many of you check their childs texts and FB
I check and my kids are 13 and 17.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-19-2010
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 1:20am
No cellphone here for my kids but I do stay on top of the FB pages. I made them remove things if I find it not appropriate. Also, one of my daughters have a group page on FB and she does a great job keeping all the kids in line. LOL So it's working, what I do helps her keep her friends in line on her special page. I would take the cell phone away if this stuff doesn't stop. Making him break up will only drive him to go out with her behind your back. Keep things open, don't give him reason to hide things from you.
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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 10:22pm
Welcome to the board! Despite what your DS says, there are plenty of parents that check their kids' FB pages and text messages. I think at least with FB, most parents I have talked with at the very least are friend's with their kids on FB to monitor what is public on the site to make sure they aren't saying inappropriate things on a public forum. At the least I always recommend that you have access and let your child know that cell phones and computers/FB are privileges, not a right and they need to show they can be trusted with the responsibility of it. As for dating, you can always limit it as much as you want outside of school, but inside school, it's pretty hard to control it. And the more you forbid it, the more Romeo and Juliet it gets and what may have fizzled out in a few short weeks or months may be drug out much longer just to spite you. The only thing I can really suggest is continually talking with him about making good, especially with things like picturing messaging and FB.
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