Summer time curfew and bedtime...
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Summer time curfew and bedtime...
| Tue, 06-17-2008 - 6:24pm |
I just wanted to know what time you are sending you 10-12 yos to bed over the summer. With there being no school and it being light outside so much later, bedtime for my 10 yo seems to early at 8:00pm. The sun is not even down yet at that time. He really does not have a curfew so it does not apply but I thought I would include it for those who need advice as well. What is reasonable?
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DD is 12.
No curfew is set since there's not anywhere she goes that I don't take her. She doesn't just "hang around" outside in the neighborhood (busy road).
Bedtime, I am the most lax about. She is a true night owl...something we learned at quite a young age (4ish). If we have somewhere to go in the morning during the summer, I'll require her to be in bed by midnight (because it won't be something that we'll do all day anyway). Other nights...she's usually up until 2 or 3.
*I* am in bed before that, so my rules are no computer (she doesn't use the phone at all, but that would obviously be off-limits if she did), no warming things up in the microwave/toaster (she doesn't use oven/stove), and keeping the tv volume down. No outside either, but she's too chicken anyway..lol.
My ds is 11. We haven't really needed a curfew yet as he doesn't go further away than our street yet. I like to have him in the house by the time it is completely dark. He has to get into bed by 9:30 but can read until 10 pm, at which time it's lights out. Both my dh and ss have early work hours (they work at separate places but both start at 7:30 am) so everyone is in bed by 10 usually.
When he's 12 I might experiment with letting him set his own summer/weekend bedtime hours. Right now, I'm pretty confident that he'd stay up until the middle of the night if allowed.
Laura mom to Gabrielle
About 11 on those days.
During the school year, she cannot go to sleep before 10/10:30...if she tries to, she just tosses and turns and ends up still up at 1am...that definitely doesn't work. But, Mike claims she's not a hassle to get up as long as they follow the routine.
However, she'll need to get up over an hour earlier next year, so her bedtime will have to be earlier (but waking up earlier will fix that as well).
For us it really varies by what's going in our lives. I have pretty strong opinions against teens sleeping half the day away, so I do try to encourage him to get to bed before dawn, but he's a definite night owl and it's a struggle. He can read until the wee hours. He simply cannot sleep until noon though, as he has responsibilities with his horses, so I have to wake him at some point so it all works out.
If we have something important the next day, I urge them to sleep. Honestly, lately we've been so crazy busy that they are exhausted most nights, so it hasn't been much of an issue.
We've never had bedtime, exactly, but we do have room time...the time the house belongs to ME and kids need to be in their rooms and content there. During the school year that's 8:30ish (and honestly my 10 year old usually goes to bed then), during the summer that's closer to 10. My 13 year old rarely falls asleep before 11, closer to midnight, but again he's in his room and owns his own sleep.
No curfew, just not an issue here, we don't live in an area where they are free roaming or anything.
It depends on what's going on. We'll have some weeks with little to nothing scheduled and weeks where there is a lot going on. My 11-year-old doesn't function well on less than 10 hours a sleep (11 is better.) If she has to be up early she'll have to go to bed at her normal bedtime of 8:30 (9:00 lights out.)
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