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|Fri, 11-30-2012 - 9:44am|
My 12 yr old ds has this friend, and I use the term loosely, because he isn't always so nice to my ds. For months now ds and this friend along with some other kids have been playing this online video game together. In order to all link up, the player that starts it has to "invite" the others in. It seems lately this friend does not let me ds play because he won't "invite" him. So now ds can see the others all playing together but can't get into the game. Ds says he really has no idea why the boy is doing this to him. They do have a history of being on and off friends, mostly because the other boy can be very nasty at times and dh and I have witnessed this.
Ds says he has tried to talk to this friend about why he won't let him play but the boy ignores him or hangs up the phone on him. Yet, when they see each other in school or during after school sports, it is fine. Ds is very hurt, angry and frustrated by this. He is the sort of kid who has lots of aquaintances but not too many friends. He is a homebody so this online game stuff is really his social out and now he is being kept out of joining with the kids he's been playing with for months now. We have often told ds to move on from this friend but ds finds in a matter of convenience I think since he lives 2 houses away.
Dh and I feel awful watching ds be so hurt and I think I'd like to speak to this boys parents who we are fairly friendly with and I know at times get annoyed at their sons behavior. This kid is frequently punished for various things. What's your opinion on this? I almost see it as a form of bullying, being intentionally left out of something you've been apart of! Thanks for your input.