13 year old daugher has "no friends."
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|Wed, 11-17-2010 - 5:15pm|
My heart is breaking for my 13 year old daugher. She's very bright, independent and I think she's pretty outgoing. She's involved in drama and yearbook at school and she takes music lessons after school. All sounds good but she says no one likes her. She's being excluded by girls she used to be friends with, sits by herself at lunch and doesn't get invited to group activities. She stays home every afternoon by herself and usually reads or watches tv. Once a week or so she'll ride her bike to the library to check out some new books. I know she's kind of nerdy and she has her own style, and I'm proud of her for being her own person. She's not the girl who is into shopping, makeup, boys and clothes. She usually wears skinny jeans and t-shirts with sneakers and she likes to dye her hair.
I've tried getting her together with some girls on a one-on-one basis but it never seems to go anywhere. They get along outside of school, but in school it doesn't stick. Once the other girls are involved, she gets excluded again. She does have a couple of friends outside of her school, but it's not easy to get them together, as they live in another town, and only get to see each other once every couple of months or so because of conflicting schedules. I've talked to her school counselor and she says that DD seems happy at school. That she's always smiling and talking to other kids when she sees her in the halls, but at home she's upset because no one likes her. I'm not sure how to help her. Any advice?