13 y/o DD so picky!

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Registered: 01-27-2006
13 y/o DD so picky!
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Fri, 09-07-2012 - 3:57pm

Our DD just started 8th grade.  They get lunch included at school.  Sometimes, often, it isn't very kid-friendly food.  Like Balsamic Chicken Pasta Salad.  Anyway, there is always salad, fruit, yogurt.  This week she said the spaghetti was disgusting.  Yesterday was cranberry hoisin wraps.  It was the worst ever Mom!  They get a snack after school too.  That is usually "terrible."  Often she wants to head to 7-11 for a drink/snack since she hasn't eaten enough.  Not happening on my end but I'm tired of the battles.  At home she is picky too.  Doesn't like what I make usually and pouts about it.  I am thinking this is more about control than actual food taste.  We've told her her social life etc is going to be very tough if she thinks everything tastes disgusting.  She is normal weight so it isn't an eating disorder. Her older brother can be selective too but will make himself something if he doesn't want what I make.  Any thoughts?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 4:41pm

I do think that some kids are much fussier eaters than others & it's really not about control.  I had one of those who is 23 yrs old now.  Even in college she was kind of fussy--from soph year on she lived in a sorority house where they had a cook.  Instead of a cafeteria with a lot of choices, they basically had whatever he cooked for dinner & she didn't like a lot of the things.  It was only gradually that she started trying new things.  She didn't start eating eggs until she was in college and she will eat them now but only egg whites--she says she doesn't like the taste.  She has always liked fruit but was very fussy about veggies.  When she was little I felt like I could only cook chicken or pasta and there wasn't much else she would eat--got very tiring.  So I think it's good for you not to go to 7-11 and have her load up on junk food--try to have snacks at home that are healthy & that she will eat.  Also do you get your school lunch menus in advance (we do)?  On the days that she doesn't like the lunch could she bring her lunch from home?

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Registered: 01-27-2006
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 11:24pm
Yes the menu for the week is online. I don't think anyone brings, although after school they do have the phones and money to get pizza delivered...the delivery people don't even have to listen to their full order to know what to bring and where! Anyway, I think she would feel odd bringing, and there is little she likes to bring:smileysad: "Go gurt doesn't stay cold and tasty yucky" is an example. Thanks for the ideas and support though. I appreciate it.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 11:25pm
WHy not bring something from home? I always did and so do my kids and dh to this day. Cafeteria food is not that good and often not that healthy. She can pack a snack as well. I stopped worrying about my kid's lunches at 6th grade, they are old enough to take choose for them selves or buy lunch.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 01-27-2006
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 11:26pm
So funny one night she made Shake n Bake chicken, sorta by herself except she turned on the oven and didn't put the chicken in...? Anyway, she didn't like the meal and thought working with raw chicken was disgusting. Am I fighting a losing battle??
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Registered: 07-25-2007
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 10:27pm
What is a freezer lunch?

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 10:51pm
Jenn, don't feel badly, I've done the same thing. Working on turning things around here too. We can be each others' support when the family revolts. :smileyhappy:
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Registered: 01-27-2006
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 12:30am

I think she meant frozen pizza, Hot Pockets, etc.  My son was eating Hot Pockets a lot...ugh the smell! but got sick of em.  Of course she wanted to try them too but didn't like the taste and gave it to the dog when I wasn't home!  She doesn't like smoothies:smileysad:  She is ok with fruit and veg, not too much variety and it has to have basically just been picked to be pristine enough:smileywink:.  It isn't whole groups of food she doesn't like:  more that the particular taste/preparation of an acceptable food  will turn her off.  Like the roast beef sandwiches at school are disgusting.  The spaghetti was awful...these are things she would eat at home. One day the snack was Chex Mix.  Gave that to her brother.  Snack could be yogurt or cheese stick or muffin.  Generally she says she doesn't eat it.  We don't do a lot of typical fast food but she loves Subway for example, turkey or ham, not the meatball/cheese laden ones!   If I make chicken here, some kinds are ok, but even when I made Shake n Bake, no.  Loves pretty much anything with ground beef but my DH has genetic cholesterol issues so I try to limit that for all.  Some days I just want to chuck all the considerations and make what I want!

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Registered: 07-25-2007
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 8:12am
Thanks. Thought is was something new that I was out of touch with.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 10:01am
Welcome to the board! It looks like others have given you some good suggestions. I will admit, I was just like your DD growing up, and I still am relatively picky now. And looking at the things you wrote they have for lunch, as a kid, or even now, I woulnd't have eaten any of it either except maybe the fruit and yogurt. It was never a control issue with me at all, I just genuinely didn't like a lot of stuff. I've read that people that tend to be pickier have many more taste buds on their tongue, so they are more sensitive to tastes, textures, etc. I have gotten better as I've aged, but my oldest daughter is alo very picky. She loves steak, but won't eat anything with hamburger in it. She loves mozarella cheese sticks, but only certain brands, etc. The only lunch meat she will eat is roast beef or salami, and on occassion, grilled chicken. Can you have her go shopping iwth you to pick out things to make her own lunches, that way she does have more control over it and she can't use it as a cop-out that she doesn't like it if she picked out and packed her own lunch.
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Registered: 01-27-2006
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 10:25pm
Thanks I agree the lunches are not typical kid-friendly. I think they can make healthful pizza, tacos, sub sandwiches, etc. Today was French Bread Pizza and both kids liked it.

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