13 y/o DD so picky!

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13 y/o DD so picky!
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Fri, 09-07-2012 - 3:57pm

Our DD just started 8th grade.  They get lunch included at school.  Sometimes, often, it isn't very kid-friendly food.  Like Balsamic Chicken Pasta Salad.  Anyway, there is always salad, fruit, yogurt.  This week she said the spaghetti was disgusting.  Yesterday was cranberry hoisin wraps.  It was the worst ever Mom!  They get a snack after school too.  That is usually "terrible."  Often she wants to head to 7-11 for a drink/snack since she hasn't eaten enough.  Not happening on my end but I'm tired of the battles.  At home she is picky too.  Doesn't like what I make usually and pouts about it.  I am thinking this is more about control than actual food taste.  We've told her her social life etc is going to be very tough if she thinks everything tastes disgusting.  She is normal weight so it isn't an eating disorder. Her older brother can be selective too but will make himself something if he doesn't want what I make.  Any thoughts?

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Sat, 09-15-2012 - 10:59am

This might sound weird but take your daughter for a check up,  lack of some vitamins and mineral can make food taste horrible and also kidney and liver problem can  give food a foul taste.  When I lack zinc and chrome, sweet drink and chocolate and sesame seeds are the only things that taste good.

Other ideas is let her set the menu for one or twice a week and let her with the help of you cook the food and there is no kid food, all food can be child friendly, trust me I grew up  what some people  call adult food only.

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 5:37pm
Ours kids go to a private school that feeds the faculty and staff the same menu. The enrollment is not huge so they aren't preparing food for thousands. It really is decent most of the time...not like the stereotypical mystery meat portrayed in movies. Today was pasta with feta and tomatoes so I'm not expecting a rave review of that, but hopefully she tried the turkey sandwich? I guess our teen son makes up for what we pay...he had "only" 3 turkey burgers because he had cross country practice after school! He won't eat the turkey burgers I make here so I guess I can't win.
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Registered: 01-06-2007
Thu, 09-13-2012 - 3:34am
School lunch really is kind of gross a lot of the time - my eighth-grade daughter loves spaghetti at home, but wouldn't touch the spaghetti they serve at school with a 10-foot pole. She often doesn't eat lunch at all because she doesn't like the food and/or the lines to buy are too long, and she doesn't want to bring a lunch and carry around with her all morning (they're not allowed to go to their lockers until the end of lunch period, so she can't leave it there). She'll take a granola bar or some peanut butter crackers in her backpack, but it's not enough, and like your daughter, she comes home starving every day. I haven't found a good solution yet, and this is our second year of dealing with it - she didn't like most of the food in elementary school either, but there it was logistically feasible for her to bring a lunch every day.
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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 10:33pm

I just looked at the rest of the week and it should be ok..Sandwiches and turkey or veggie burgers, pasta (altho it has feta and tomatoes) but on Friday there is a schoolwide celebration and they'll have specialty food trucks onsite (yes this is a frou frou school!) so hopefully they can find something they like.  Wish I could sneak in:smileylol:

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Registered: 01-27-2006
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 10:25pm
Thanks I agree the lunches are not typical kid-friendly. I think they can make healthful pizza, tacos, sub sandwiches, etc. Today was French Bread Pizza and both kids liked it.
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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 10:01am
Welcome to the board! It looks like others have given you some good suggestions. I will admit, I was just like your DD growing up, and I still am relatively picky now. And looking at the things you wrote they have for lunch, as a kid, or even now, I woulnd't have eaten any of it either except maybe the fruit and yogurt. It was never a control issue with me at all, I just genuinely didn't like a lot of stuff. I've read that people that tend to be pickier have many more taste buds on their tongue, so they are more sensitive to tastes, textures, etc. I have gotten better as I've aged, but my oldest daughter is alo very picky. She loves steak, but won't eat anything with hamburger in it. She loves mozarella cheese sticks, but only certain brands, etc. The only lunch meat she will eat is roast beef or salami, and on occassion, grilled chicken. Can you have her go shopping iwth you to pick out things to make her own lunches, that way she does have more control over it and she can't use it as a cop-out that she doesn't like it if she picked out and packed her own lunch.
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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 8:12am
Thanks. Thought is was something new that I was out of touch with.

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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 12:30am

I think she meant frozen pizza, Hot Pockets, etc.  My son was eating Hot Pockets a lot...ugh the smell! but got sick of em.  Of course she wanted to try them too but didn't like the taste and gave it to the dog when I wasn't home!  She doesn't like smoothies:smileysad:  She is ok with fruit and veg, not too much variety and it has to have basically just been picked to be pristine enough:smileywink:.  It isn't whole groups of food she doesn't like:  more that the particular taste/preparation of an acceptable food  will turn her off.  Like the roast beef sandwiches at school are disgusting.  The spaghetti was awful...these are things she would eat at home. One day the snack was Chex Mix.  Gave that to her brother.  Snack could be yogurt or cheese stick or muffin.  Generally she says she doesn't eat it.  We don't do a lot of typical fast food but she loves Subway for example, turkey or ham, not the meatball/cheese laden ones!   If I make chicken here, some kinds are ok, but even when I made Shake n Bake, no.  Loves pretty much anything with ground beef but my DH has genetic cholesterol issues so I try to limit that for all.  Some days I just want to chuck all the considerations and make what I want!

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 10:51pm
Jenn, don't feel badly, I've done the same thing. Working on turning things around here too. We can be each others' support when the family revolts. :smileyhappy:
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Sun, 09-09-2012 - 10:27pm
What is a freezer lunch?

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