1st Period....New to Board... :)

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Registered: 04-30-2003
1st Period....New to Board... :)
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Sun, 07-17-2011 - 12:27pm

Hello Group,

Hoping to get some advice.

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Registered: 04-01-2005
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 12:04am

Hi Sorry to post this a little late. Both of my girls have their periods already. Oldest got it just as she turned 12, youngest was 11. About a year after my oldest got hers, there was a pool party for her softball team. She had her period and she decided she wanted to try tampons. Since she was 13 and had already had her period a year, I decided to let her. She tried, came out with her arms crossed and said "NO WAY! THEY HURT!" I had guessed she didn't do it quite right, but she refused to let me help and by that I mean at least stand by and watch to see she was doing it right. I gave her the package insert and she read it. To this day, she will not use them. She's 14 now. I was more open to it, because she'd had it a year. Now she's going into high school and is on cross country and she plays sofball. Both my girls use Always infinity and LOVE them. They are very thin and comfortable according to them and you cannot see them thru the tiny XC outfit or softball pants. I am ok with my older one using tampons, but will wait till my youngest is 13 and then let her decide.

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Registered: 12-24-1999
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 10:17am
I'm 47 and only have a son, but when I got my period at 13 and tried tampons, I couldn't get it in! Maybe I was tightening up my muscles. So I used pads for at least the first year, if I recall. Another option which you probably won't go for is that I THINK I remember my cousin telling me she had to put a tampon in for her daughter. It would take a special kind of relationship to do that. Some girls just refrain from swimming during that time, but it's a shame to have to do that.
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 1:02pm
I would NEVER do that.The thought makes me shutter.My 15 year old is not all that keen on tampons.She claims they hurt and I have no way of knowing if she is putting them in right of not.It may be because her periodsare very light too so..

 

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Registered: 04-01-2005
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 9:15pm
EW!! No way. My daughter would not let me and I would feel, just disgusted even trying that for her. And I am a Nurse! No Way! Too close to crossing a line. I learned on my own eventually and so will she. When she's ready! Honestly, even being in the room watching her would freak her out, and make me uncomfortable. No thanks! LOL
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Mon, 07-25-2011 - 8:20am
I think it does cross the line.If she can't figure it out herself with dierections she can use pads until such a time she figures it out.Of course I used the ear thing to take Gab's temp too even as an infant so...

 

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Registered: 09-06-2009
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 10:30am

My dd just asked me if she can try tampons when she gets her period this month. between being prescribed BCpills to start this month & now Tampons I just don't know what to think. I guess we'll go to Walmart & buy the sport ones, she has a heavy flow & she's timy so never having used them I'm at a loss.

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 9:48am
First, congrats to your daughter and welcome to the group! For a few years I was active on ivillage in general but slowly but surely my involvement elsewhere tapered off and for some time this has been the one place on ivillage I come to again and again. We have a tremendous group of women who have been here for years and are active with a mix of newcomers and some old timers who are now less active than they once were.

I also have a 13 year old daughter but am in an entirely different position as not only has she now had her period for several years, but she has endured more hardship related to hers than almost any woman does in a lifetime. As a person who tries very hard to stay positive, I have tried to make lemonade when life handed me this lemon.

I have read my medical journals and scholarly articles than I ever imagined along with every piece of popular literature I can get my hands on. Whenever I can be a resource to another mom I am glad to do so.

I could write for days and days so will try to avoid doing so but please know any question you have now in the future I would be happy to reply to and ensure you have whatever data you desire to help you help your daughter make informed decisions and also to ensure she has the best possible quality of life during her periods.
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Registered: 03-17-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 9:54am

our fearless leader is so wise but I do want to offer clarification on one thing Tracy wrote. . .

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 9:59am

and I must commend our fearless leader for these words of practical wisdom

she writes

"If she is cramping and is uncomfortable, ibuprofen usually is the best thing to start out trying, you can do midol or pampren, but you'll want to watch as usually the have a diuretic and caffeine in them, and caffiene can actually make the cramps worse for some girls.

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 10:00am
Congrats to your dd on starting! I think it is wonderful you are NOT pressuring her to try tampons but instead allowing her to decide when she is ready. Has she found pads she really likes?
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