3 embarrassed of me?

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3 embarrassed of me?
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Wed, 11-03-2010 - 1:46pm

First time here. I have 3 kids in middle school this year, a ds in

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Registered: 12-30-2005
Wed, 11-03-2010 - 2:40pm

I wouldn't beat yourself too much on this, but it's worth bringing up to the kids in a non-confrontational way. Some will say it's an age thing, but for me it wasn't. My son loved me very much at those ages and yet there were times he purposefully excluded me from events that other parents went to. I don't know why exactly, other than I think he too felt I would embarrass him. Sometimes I also think it was because I was divorced and living in an apt. and a lot of his friends' parents were still together living in a house. So, maybe he was embarrassed for himself. He would go to friends' houses but not invite friends over. It hurt my feelings

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Wed, 11-03-2010 - 7:47pm

I think I'm new here, but not entirely sure because I lurk.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 11-04-2010 - 9:31am

I wanted to welcome all three of the posters to the board, I don't know that I have "seen" any of you before, but welcome and please feel free to stay, post, etc., we love having new additions to the board.

To momplus4, I can imagine it was hard to hear that your kids' did not invite you to the parent day at the schools because they were embarrassed by you, especially if you have a close relationship with all of them.

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Thu, 11-04-2010 - 9:34am

Am I the only one who remembers being embarassed by my parents when I was the age our children are now?




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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 11-04-2010 - 9:46am
Oh no Laurie, I completely remember how embarrassed I was at that age of my parents! LOL! In my case though, my parents never were able to go to anything of mine, so having one of them be able to attend something like that, would have been a treat, embarrased or not. But I completely get your point, and at 8th grade, it does seem a bit odd, you don't normally see things like that at that level for parents to be involved. Again, I think it goes back in some regards to how this generation has been raised in a very different manner than we were.
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Thu, 11-04-2010 - 10:26am

God YES I remember being embarrassed. My mom did colonial reenactments, so sometimes at the mall with me she'd be in full colonial garb head to toe. That was

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Registered: 03-06-1998
Thu, 11-04-2010 - 10:30am
That can be said for every generation, I think. Good and bad.



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Thu, 11-04-2010 - 10:54am

I didn't mean for the tone of my post to come off as confrontational.




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Thu, 11-04-2010 - 11:50am

Maybe it was a little whiney but really it was just a pure emotional reaction. I did get so much from happiness from them especially when so much was going wrong in the world around us. (We've been through some very traumatic events.) But I do need to start weening off them (I sound like the baby! lol) and find happiness for myself because soon they'll not just be shunning me, but they'll be leaving the nest. I'm just having trouble with this because

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Thu, 11-04-2010 - 1:06pm

Until a few years ago, dd's middle school had "parent to school day".

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