AIM acct?

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Registered: 03-30-2003
AIM acct?
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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 12:52pm

Ok, this might seem to be a really silly question.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2007
In reply to: sneakymom1
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 1:03pm
Gabby has one and hers is set up so only people on her list can AIM her.Gab got hers last year when she was in 6th grade.I am ok with it.Although now that she is able to txt her friends she is rarelu on AIM.Gab is rarely home when we are not so I don't worry too much about her doing anything I would not want her to on AIM.You can also make it so that you can read any AIMs that go in or out.I really do not do this becasue I am stitting in the room when Gab is on the computer.I still have not let Gab have a facebook or a My space page.She does not really want either anyway,so I am not sure how I would handle it if she did ask.

 

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Registered: 07-26-1999
In reply to: sneakymom1
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 2:15pm
Jordyn has one, but she barely uses it anymore, she also has a yahoo messanger account.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: sneakymom1
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 3:13pm

My 13 yo DS has had an AIM acct. for a couple of years now--he got started early cause he had an older sister (she's now 19) and stepS. I have never monitored what he was writing because I wouldn't sit there & listen in while he talked on the phone either. Since the computer is downstairs in my office, I could look if I wanted to. Sometimes he could have 3 IMs going at the same time.

W/ both him & my DD, we did have talks about the dangers of IMing and internet use in general, esp. how strangers could pretend to be kids when they are not. I think my kids are pretty sophisticated and see the news and not that naive. The rule always was that they could only IM to people they already knew in real life--not even the friend of a friend. I could go through his buddy list and he could tell me everyone on there. They were just not interested in doing anything else except talking to their friends.

I suppose if she has email, she could always give out her email address to people too so if you haven't had that talk about beware of strangers, it would be a good time to do it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: sneakymom1
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 6:15pm

My dd and ds

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2004
In reply to: sneakymom1
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 7:39pm
My daughter has asked for one, but so far I have not allowed it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2003
In reply to: sneakymom1
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 8:37am

That's one of the problems we've had with this online game- Maplestory. The kids can get so involved in that game.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
In reply to: sneakymom1
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 9:09am
My DS does have an AIM account and has for almost 2 years. I *do* monitor it, with gomcgruff.com, and he knows it. It has been quite eye-opening for me, and it has been a good learning experience for him, to understand that what is said on the internet is "out there" for anyone to see. Now that he is almost 13 I am not monitoring it as closely, but when he was 11, it was a darn good thing I was. He was just getting in over his head with kids who were much too sophisticated, and I would have had no clue if I hadn't been monitoring.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: sneakymom1
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 11:56am

Of course you have to know what is best for your own child and there are some kids who will get too distracted or too obsessed w/ the computer, video games, etc. but my DD, who IMed while she did her hw all the time during high school (and of course, that did make it take longer) still graduated in the top 10% of her class and made National Honor Society and my son has always had straight A's. Some kids can do their hw while the TV is on for background noise and others can do it only in silence.

Are you from Andover, MA? I live in Weymouth.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2004
In reply to: sneakymom1
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 12:46pm

Everything you said is true, but I still choose to limit the distractions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: sneakymom1
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:30pm
That is really a lot of homework for a young kid. My son is usually done w/ his hw by the time I get home from work. High school will be different.

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