Boy/Girl friendships at this age...

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Boy/Girl friendships at this age...
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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 2:53am

How are your young teens fairing with friendships involving the opposite sex?

My DD (13, 9th grade) has always connected better to boys than girls even as a toddler. In elementary, her best friend from 1st through 4th was a boy. They were inseperable. He moved to another state but they still keep in contact all these years later. In middle school, DD

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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 8:38pm

My Ds is the same--he has always been friends w/ girls.

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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 11:45pm
It's not just about looks. It's also the age where boys and girls start taking notice of each other in romantic ways. She's been pulling away because what was once a safe haven for open conversation has turned into a sea of misinterpreted intentions. She already crushed a dear friend when he professed his affections and she couldn't return them. She just told me about it and it happened months ago. I guess they've been trying to stay on the "friend" track but she says he's pretty much analyzing everything she says for a sign that she's changed her mind. Another boy hasn't said anything but has been putting more focus on them being alone (which we don't allow... group activity only) or working his way as to be the ONLY boy in the movie party and then staying glued to her side. She's been uncomfortable and so having to some distance there. Forget trying to make NEW male friends without the assumption being that she's interested.

The one boy she'd probably welcome that sort of attention from is the one who has continued to challenge her (they talk politics, religion, personal situations, ect.) His mother told me he's carrying a major torch but he's being very careful not to cross any lines with her.... probably learned from the first two lol.

It's tough because these are great boys... smart, capable, sort of shy but deep thinkers like herself. They are kindred spirits but seem ready for more than she's willing to give at the moment.
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Fri, 10-22-2010 - 9:26pm

That is too bad.

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Thu, 01-06-2011 - 1:00pm
Your description of your daughter could have been written by me about my own DD. We've dealt with all the same things, from the nastiness of the girls to the occasional broken hearted boy who hoped their friendship could be something more.
Gianna will be 15 next month and, so far, sadly, theres no improvement. If anything, the girls are nastier now than ever, because they get jealous if a boy they're interested in spends too much time with DD. She still has only 1 very close female friends and an entire circle of close male friends. She chooses to ignore the catty jealous girls and do what makes her happy. She has a boyfriend now, which helps keep the boundaries set for the other guys.
As long as she keeps her intentions with the guys clear and firm, which Im sure she's learning how to do, theres nothing wrong with having a great cirlce of male friends. They'll probably be better friends to her than most girls anyway. :)