Chores, what is appropriate?

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Chores, what is appropriate?
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Tue, 06-29-2010 - 2:27pm

Hey there.

I have a 10 year old son and a 13 year old son and I was wondering what are chores that they can do that would be age appropriate?
As of now I have the 10 year old help me: fold towels, pair up socks together, straighten his room and pickup dishes from the basement.

As of now I have my 13 year old do: bring up the laundry baskets (it's difficult for me to do) from the basement, transfer laundry from washer to dryer, straighten up the basement and sometimes vacuum the basement.

What else can I have them do to earn their allowance? And how much money is too much per month. I pay on a monthly basis.

Kelly

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Tue, 06-29-2010 - 6:22pm

My kids will do the following:


- Swifter


- Swifter wet jet


- fold laundry


- my oldest will make lunches or help me cook.


- water the garden


- Unload dishwasher


- Sweep under the table (we have hardwood)


They don't do these all the time - mostly they are responsible for their rooms but when they want to help I will give them a choice. Sometimes I will say when they ask me for something " if you help me.... then

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Tue, 06-29-2010 - 7:21pm

My 10 year old dd unloads the dishwasher, sets the table, swooshes the toilet bowl, and wipes off the counters in the bathroom.

My 13 year old ds feeds the dog and walks her, sets the table, helps cook, takes out the garbage, does the occasional load of laundry, Swiffers the floor (when asked), and has been known to scrape paint off walls to prep for painting and paint (I did the masking). If we had a lawn mower I'd have him mowing the lawn and he helps shovel snow in the winter.

Both can vacuum and ds is responsible for ironing his own clothes (mostly because he's pickier than I am about how they look and I DON'T iron.) They are also supposed to strip their beds once/week so I can wash the bedding. Doesn't always happen. Since they are both competitive swimmers and go through 1-2 towels/day they also take turns doing a load of towels once or twice/week. They are also supposed to keep their rooms clean but we're giving remedial lessons in that this summer.

HTH

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Registered: 06-06-2002
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 6:55am
My ten year old doesn't do many chores.
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Wed, 06-30-2010 - 8:51am

My dd is 14, but has been doing the same chores for several years at least.


We really don't have a specific list, but whenever we have house work to do we tend to do it together until it's done.


We'll empty the dishwasher together.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 5:53pm

It seems like a pretty light load for a 13 year old, but I've been told I'm a slave driver, lol :).


My ds10 and ds8 clean the kitchen every night with us. They empty waste baskets, dust, pick up, etc... They can fold (badly) and match socks. They like to help cook. They do a bad job on the bathrooms, but no toilets. My ds10 is so clumsy that I try not to give them chemicals.


The boys get $2 a week in allowance. They really don't buy much. If they want something, it's Christmas or birthday. My dd17 got $30 a month direct deposited until she graduated HS. I agree that kids do need to learn these skils. My stepfather died 10 days ago and I had to leave immediately. I left dd17 in charge while dh was at work all day and she was able to do everything from packing appropriate clothes (they followed a few days later) to getting her immunization records (we went straight to her college orientation after the funeral) to taking her brothers to the dentist and cooking them meals. Obviously, this was an isolated incident, but it was nice to see that she was able to take things over fairly seamlessly.


When our girls were younger, we printed out a huge list of chores and then we wrote VERY specific directions for each with a checklist (the bathroom one was an entire page that included things like ditching empty shampoo bottles, refilling toilet paper and checking the supply and washing the rug). On Saturdays, we'd all work together (there are six of us, so there was a lot to do) and they'd have to alternate things, just so they learned them. Yeah, there was some complaining, but it was really helpful. Sometimes they'd get "make dinner" which included planning a meal, putting together a shopping list, and getting one of us to take them, and sometimes they'd get "go through paperwork" which meant getting bills ready, filing, etc. Sometimes it was just mundane vacuuming. But, it was all stuff they need to learn.


And my kids don't "earn" their allowance. They help because they're part of a family. They don't get paid for grades either. They know the expectations and I never want them to say that they don't care if they get their allowance or they don't care if they earn that $5 for an A. There are expectations and responsibilities for each of us.


Theresa


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Registered: 06-29-2001
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 7:48pm

I can't comment on paying, I don't pay my kids for regular chores, they are expected to take part in the work around the house as members of the family, who contribute to making the mess, creating the laundry, etc.


My kids are 11 and 15.

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Registered: 06-06-2002
Thu, 07-01-2010 - 5:38am
"I was shocked when I got to college at the girls I had to teach how to do their laundry, for example."
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Thu, 07-01-2010 - 10:15am

My sister told me that when she dropped one of the boys off at college, his roommate did not know how to put sheets on his bed!!!


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Registered: 03-29-1999
Sun, 07-04-2010 - 11:07am

My kids get an allowance of $1.00 per grade per week.

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Registered: 06-18-2010
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 4:53pm

Hey there Kelly!

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