Daydreaming/Disorganized 14 yo boy

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Daydreaming/Disorganized 14 yo boy
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Tue, 01-11-2011 - 9:53am

Hello,

I posted this on the teen board, but this may be the better place to post it.

I am new to this board, but could sure use some help.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-11-2011 - 4:48pm
Hi imommy ... I can imagine that is very frustrating for everyone involved. I think that some of this is probably normal teen boy behavior, some probably his personality but also you may want to talk to your pediatrician or the current school's guidance counselor about other options for attention disorders. I know you say he's been tested, but I wonder if there are other approaches that work with those who have ADD (not medication) that may work for him as well?

It doesn't sound like consequences seem to impact him much, which limits your options, but I am curious if you've sat him down and talked to him about this issue straight up? What does he have to say about it? (Or does he do a lot of shrugging like my kids??)

I'm sorry I don't have much advice to offer but I wanted to post and give you some support and good luck in dealing with this. Keep us posted!
Missy :)
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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 01-11-2011 - 5:04pm
Welcome to the board! It sounds like from what you describe it is semi regular behavior we seem to see on the board from kids this age. I have never had any contact with Sylvan or other such programs, but from what I understand, they are more about doing drills with kids, getting them the foundation of the subject, especially math. I don't know if tha'ts the issue you are having with him, or if its just a general lack of disregard to doing the homework. If he did the homework and actually turned it in, would his grades be fine? That would be my first question, is he actually understanding the work, is he bored at school and therefore just not doing the work, is he being challenged enough. And even if he's not, he still needs to take some initiative for himself to correct that.

As for the consequences, I don't have any suggestions unfortunately, but to say, every kid has a point, an important thing to then that consequences will work on, you just have to find out what that is and use it effectively. A talk with his guidance counselor and/or pediatrician may be in order to get to more of a route of the problem. I hope some others on the board will have some more suggestions for you.
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Registered: 11-19-2010
Wed, 01-12-2011 - 12:50am

To a certain point

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 11:57am

Thank you all for your input.