DD neglecting her guinea pig...let it go?

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DD neglecting her guinea pig...let it go?
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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 7:49pm

Good grief...another post about my DD! I s'pose I am an unfit mother since I keep venting about her here. But I have no clue how to deal with the various things she goes thru.

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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 8:06pm

The guinea pig is a living creature.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 8:23pm
I agree with lam42. I would start with a chore chart, or some sort of checklist she has to complete before she can even get on the Internet or gmail chatting, and if it continues and she continues neglecting it, find a suitable home for it. But I would give her a fair warning that this is the consequence for not following through on her obligations.

And you aren't an unfit mom at all. Every tween, teen has their issues, that's why we're all here.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 11:01pm
Set out expectations about her chores, including her pet. Tell her that there are consequences for not completing it, and that includes taking care that the guinea pig will have a new home. My kids have pets too, and they are expected to have fresh food and water for them and the cages have to be cleaned every Xday. We look at their schedules to come up with a plan. Have her sign the greement and put it up on the fridge so she will be reminded of it!!

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Thu, 09-29-2011 - 9:09am

Thank you all. I will set up the chore chart prominently in the kitchen. DD will do it for a few weeks and then again start forgetting - I will give it a shot and then warn her that I will give the pig to a shelter.

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Thu, 09-29-2011 - 10:24am

I'd find it a new home but try not to go the shelter route. There are some really nice "no kill" shelters but there are many more that are frightening places for animals and difficult to get them adopted out in such an agitated state. Let your DD know at a calm moment, not in the heat of frustration. If she begs for another chance, I'd reccomend she write her own list of what needs to be done in a day. Certainly keep track though. The animal doesn't deserve to starve because she has karate.

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Thu, 09-29-2011 - 7:23pm

I'm sorry that you don't live close to us, we'd happily take your guinea pig. I would not take care of her pet for her. She can care for him or you can give him away. Of course, he needs to be taken care of in the meantime while you are looking for a home. If he is her responsibility and she's not taking care of him, I think some punishment and no gmail chatting is in order. Her being a favorite with teachers has no bearing on this situation.

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