Do you know your child's friends?

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Registered: 06-01-2012
Do you know your child's friends?
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Sat, 06-09-2012 - 2:41pm
I was on another message board and I mentioned that I don't let my 13 yr old dd hang out with friends I don't know, and another poster said I was being too protective, and not letting her have enough freedom. What is wrong with knowing your kid's friends? I mean, she does have friends at school that I have not met, but if she wanted to go to their house or have them come to mine, I would want to meet the child's parents, or at least talk to them on the phone. Is that being too protective? To me, that is what a parent should be doing.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 06-10-2012 - 2:50pm

I think as she is getting into high school you will have less contact w/ the parents.  My DD went from a pretty small elementary school so she would hang out w/ kids in the neighborhood (very easy to meet the parents) to a bigger middle school to a high school w/ over 400 kids in her class.  If it was the first time dropping her off to their house, I'd go up to the door & say hi but doing that doesn't really have you "know" someone.  I think by high school the kids have a sense of what kind of things are going on in a house and if they feel comfortable there or not.  And where we live everybody is kind of middle class,  I think I knew the kids a lot more because of the driving around where you would hear them talk (they forget you are listening) and where they are at my house--so I knew the kids a lot more than the parents.