Excessive Texting

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Excessive Texting
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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:04pm

We have unlimited text messaging on all of our phones. DS, 13, has had a phone for about 4 months. I love him having a phone, it has really been helpful for us now that he is in 7th grade, traveling for sports, etc. But we just got a summary of text messages for last month. I sent 8 text messages and received 12. He sent 1,585 text messages and received 1,817. !!!!!!!! That just doesn't even seem possible!!!!! How does one text that much????

Now, obviously this is not costing us extra, since we went the unlimited route (mainly because DS texts a lot for work), but it just doesn't seem right!!! I will say, he is pretty good about not texting inappropriately, ie., during dinner or while interacting with other people... However. This is just ridiculous. He has a limit of time that he can spend on his computer, and I think once I kick him off his IM'ing, he just switches to his phone. I don't know how else you can rack up that many text messages in a month. What to do, what to do.

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Registered: 07-04-2004
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:15pm
Compared to my nieces and nephews, all middle school and high schoolers, that is a pretty low to average number of texts.

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:35pm
Another friend also just told me that. That makes me feel better! Thank you!!!
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:41pm

The one word text and "LOL" texts add up. I text more than I talk. I have unlimited texting but I don't have unlimited talk time. Texting works out GREAT for us.


I agree with the previous poster, that number is on the low end for tween/teenie boppers.


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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:52pm
Its a wonder isn't it.
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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 5:51pm
This is the main reason why I won't add unlimited texting to my daughter's cell.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 8:42pm
Ditto this, excessive texting is why we don't pay for unlimited, it's just not how I want my kids communicating or spending their time.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 9:16pm
Oh boy sweetie--that is nothing, seriously.

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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 8:49am
Gab does about that many too.As long as he is not being rude and txing when he should be involved with family it really isn't too bad.The one thing I do pay attention to though is making sure Gabby isn't txting too much after 9 at night.One or two txt evry once in a while after 9 os ok,but after nine she does not need to be txting for any reason,on a school night.Its bad enough she has trouble falling asleep she does not need the phone keeping her up.She had a friend txt her at 11:45 on a school night.The only reason I know this is that I had the phone in my room at it woke me up.I don't care if she txts late into the night on weekends,but not on Sun-Thursday.I figure txting keeps her off of the phone!

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 12-23-2008 - 2:37pm

My 19 yr old DD could easily do 1500 a month. That's because she will text a lot instead of talking. I used to wonder why they didn't just call each other and then I realized that sometimes I will text her because I'm not sure if she's in class or studying (away at college) and I don't want to disturb her. It's easy just to send someone a message saying "meet you at 6:00" or something like that if you don't want to end up in a whole conversation. Plus, I have a 13 yr old DS, who doesn't text that much, except when he first got his phone in Sept, it was a novelty. I'm sure at that age, when you are talking to members of the opp. sex, it's easier to text and be able to think about what you are saying, than to be nervous on the phone.

My DSD, who is 18, could do about 3000 TMs a month. Now in looking at the bill, we could see that she was doing this during the day when she was in school and they aren't supposed to be using their cell phones at all during school.

I think as long as the kid isn't using the phone at inappropriate times (nights, school day or during dinner) what diff. does it make how many texts he sends? After all, it's kind of hard for a kid to restrain himself if he knows that texting is unlimited. Also, I would rather have DS text than be using up the minutes during the day, since texting doesn't count toward our minutes.

As far as people who don't want their kids texting, I remember being in high school and spending hours talking to my friends on the phone after school, so really, is this any worse? By the way, I was an A student and involved in cheerleading and some clubs, so it's not like that's the only way I spent my time. It's just normal for kids to want to talk to their friends.

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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 2:51pm
I am so glad for this board. Had I not posted this question here, DH and I (especially DH) would have totally freaked out on poor DS about the number of texts. It just sounded so outrageous. But, I agree, musiclover12, that as long as he is not using it inappropriately and at times he shouldn't be, it really isn't a problem. He does not just sit around in front of his phone and text; from what I've seen his texts are mostly along the lines of "Sup?" "NM. U?" "LOL", so they aren't taking up a lot of his time to write/receive, but those one word texts add up during one weekend or one evening, I am sure; but they aren't costing us anything... I pointed this all out to DH yesterday before he freaked out, and reminded him that DS is straight-A student, plays on the school basketball team, is a pretty well-rounded, good kid... He's just very social and that connection to his friends is very important to him right now. As long as it is not inappropriate or out of hand, we are okay with it.

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