feeling jealous (and stupid)....

You need to remember that all kids have issues. My eldest is "that kid" with a huge laundry list of amazing triumphs and yet she never feels accomplished. She enjoys competition but the pressure to live up to her own high standards and reputation is ridiculous. Things come easy to her so she often feels like a fraud listening to others talk of how hard she must of worked and what an accomplishment she'd just made. I won't even go into the social toll. It's taken us working with her from toddlerhood to accept her own imperfections and develop a healthy attitude about competition and potentiol failure. We do yoga with her, I kid you not, to help relieve stress and anxiety. She is amazing but she can be a bit of a mess too!

On the other hand, my DS is just as brilliant and talented but pretty happy to drive in the the "slow lane." He has his issues too, of course, but it's a real gift to be happy and fulfilled in life. He does less. He avoids competition generally but will do it occasionally "for fun" and it's actually FUN for him even when he loses. His "wins" are fewer but far more meaningful to him. He does things just because he loves them and has no problem saying "no" when others try to get him to do something he doesn't.