High Heels

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High Heels
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Tue, 10-14-2008 - 6:35pm

At what age is it appropriate to let your daughter's wear high heels?




Edited 10/14/2008 7:07 pm ET by cmp1681

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cmp1681
Tue, 10-14-2008 - 8:41pm
I need more information before I answer....define "high heels", and are we talking for a special occasion or everyday wear (i.e., to school or to a movie or whatever).
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Registered: 04-25-2006
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 12:30am
For special occasions.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 8:09am

For a special occasion like maybe a school dance, paired with an appropriate dress, I would allow it in about 7th or 8th grade, upper Jr. High level. Not for daily wear though, and not paired with tight clothing/skinny jeans or anything yet.

Like so many of the "what age" questions this one really depends heavily on the actions of the child. If she's generally showing good judgment, has good solid friends, isn't being inappropriate with dress and actions, etc, etc, then I am more inclined to say "yes". If I had a child who was acting out, boy crazy, rude and mouthy, etc, etc, then I'd be more inclined to shorten the leash a bit.

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Registered: 04-25-2006
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 12:07pm

Thanks for your response.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 12:24pm

My dd (who will be 14 in December)

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 12:27pm
Yeah, walking around the neighborhood wearing high heels probably isn't a good idea. And you have to really watch out for Halloween costumes now--my 19 yr DD was in the costume store this weekend and she said that there are so many sexy costumes now, she was embarrassed to be there w/ 13 yo brother (sexy witch, sexy maid, etc.). I think 3 in. heels are too high for a 13 yr old who is not used to wearing heels anyway--she'll probably look ridiculous trying to walk in them. She should start out w/ a lower heel shoe, like 1-2 in. w/ a thicker heel for wearing on a special occasion. I do have to say that fathers really have a much harder time when their girls start to look older. When my DD went to the proms, her dad would have a hard time seeing her dressed up, but she didn't wear anything too sexy and she's flat chested anyway.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 1:48pm

I'm not ready to see my dd in heels yet either, so we've worked out way there slowly, she has maybe 1" heels now, and that's for special occasions.

Honestly though, I probably would allow it for a COSTUME, keeping in mind that it is costume and not real life, you know? My dd and I watch Dancing with the Stars together and when she compliments the (rather risque) outfits I often remind her that they are indeed costumes and not something to wear on the street, so I can see the value in allowing her to wear the heels for halloween.

I would, however, arm her with a pair of flats to change into, she'll want them pretty much after photos are done and the first set of houses is done!

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Registered: 01-06-2007
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 2:56pm

I was allowed to start wearing them for school dances, etc., when I was about 13, and for everyday wear when I was in high school. I definitely would have been allowed to wear them for a costume, although I agree that trick-or-treating in heels would have to be pretty uncomfortable.

I have no idea what I'm going to do next time my daughter needs a pair of dress shoes -- she's way too young for heels, but she wears a women's size 8 shoe. Something tells me they don't make black patent Mary Janes in that size. LOL

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Registered: 03-07-2008
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 3:54pm

They might do you know. Or cute ballet style pumps. There are plenty of flat adult shoes that look cute.

And to the OP, I'd let her wear them. I bet she soon learns they're not all they're cracked up to be. Sensible shoes in her bag is a great idea cuz we all now those puppies *will* be comin off ;-)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cmp1681
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 5:25pm

Re: appropriate shoes for a young girl with a big foot (lol), I really stressed out about this when my daughter's feet grew and grew (she's 10 and wears an 8.5), but it's really been fine. For everyday wear you can find adorable sketchers, rocket dogs, etc, totally flat but very fashionable. For dressier wear I always seem to find some nice and shiny low pumps that appeal to her (that's the truly hard part, steering her away from the 5" mega-heels!)

Not sure how widespread the store is, but DSW has been a LIFESAVER for us, they always have the cutest stuff in their clearance room and I can get really good stuff for reasonable prices.

I've not had luck at Target or any of the typical stores for my dd, their stuff is too high and too grown up looking, other than flip flops I stay away from their shoes.

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