Homework Problems

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Homework Problems
Wed, 12-19-2012 - 11:15am

My stepson is 14 and in 8th grade.  This year he has suddenly stopped writing down his assignments and therefore doesn't complete many of his assignments resulting in poor grades.  How do we get him to remember to write down his assignments?

He is smart and gets As usually on his tests but has Cs or Ds in some classes due to his homeowrk  issues.  I tried checking his agenda and his homework to make sure it's complete but that didn't solve the problem.  With a little more digging I realized it was that he isn't writing down the assignments.

Any suggestions? 

any suggestions on consequences?  We also told him that his computer time is limited frmo 3 - 5 and then homework and whatever else.  We also told him to write none or N/A if there is no homeowrk but he isn't doing that so I just don't know what to do.


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 12-19-2012 - 3:22pm

Does your school have assignments on line?  Many schools do.  I would start there.  My DSD had a problem failing some classes in high school and had to go to summer school, so her dad told her that if she got a note signed by the teacher that she had done all her HW for the week, she could use the car on the weekend--no note, no car.  It worked wonders.  however, we were sure that DSD was not just forgetting things--it was more that she didn't care and was kind of passive/agressive in being defiant.  You probably would want to make sure that your DS doesn't have any learning disorders before you think about punishment.  I'd try working with him first.

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Registered: 05-13-1998
Thu, 12-20-2012 - 11:45am

I was going to ask the same as PP, does the school have an online grading system. Many do these days. Might be worth checking in at the office about it. 

I don't know how to make him write things down but if he's missing assignments regularly, I'd take the computer away. I'd certianly not set up his computer time BEFORE homework. I understand the need to decompress afterschool but he can do that reading a book, riding his bike around the block, whatever. If he comes home with nothing written in his planner, just pull computer time that day completely. In 8th grade, there really are few days when nothing is sent home or there isn't a longer term project on the agenda that should be worked on several days in advance.

If this is sudden, I'd also check into any other possible issues. Is he getting bullied? Is there a reason he suddenly doesn't care about his grades? Might be worth contacting his teachers and asking what they are seeing in the classroom.