how to get through your moody 13 yr old.
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|Sun, 08-01-2010 - 9:35pm|
My 13 year old dd has a hard time fitting in with most people. She was a young 8th grader and looking to start high school this year. She just doesn't want to interact with friends..says they dont interest her. Most girls around our neighborhood are the typical teenagers into fashion/boys etc. My DD is ..i guess she falls into the nerdy/gifted/talented..and sometimes kids like her have a hard time socially. She had couple of friends but they are out of the country and they dont live close by to hang out..Anyway..here is how today went..
Me: So lets go to the downtown, eat out and roam the shops..
Her: I do NOT want to go anywhere with YOU..I don't want to eat out..
Me: Well..then should I drop you at a friends place
Her: No I dont want to see so-and-so.
Me: Well where would YOU like to go
Her: I dont want to go ANYWHERE..
Me: I am not going to be cooped up inside the house whole weekend.
Her: You go, I dont want to go out.
If she does go out, she is starting to get the attitude that she is TOO GOOD for anybody..everyone else is just not SMART enough..I said look everyone is good at something..you will make more friends if you reach out to them and understand what they like
Her: But I am just not interested in them. I like being on my own..rather than with people that don't interest me.
Me: Ok..let's at least go for a walk to the bookstore
Her (agreed after a while). But then on the walk, kept saying how annoying we are..and complained about the books she has to read for her honors class ..why these books? these are 6th grade level..
Just as a background..Dad has anger issues (see post below) and I am looking to tell her my decision to leave..But with her already acting so moody and closed up, I am not sure what and how to deal with this..
She was in a class this whole summer and that sort of kept her busy but now she has retreated to her moody self and can get rude at me. I try to call her on her rudeness....E.g. yesterday..she was taking shower but I did not hear her..I opened the door a teeny bit..she said NEVER EVER come to my room again!
By the way, I am a very mild person and never raise my voice ..I understand some of her behavior is coming from her Dad but her moodiness seems inexcusable. Even he has been frustrated with her because everything is met with negativity and arrogance.
Any ideas on how to get to her?