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Hi Ichoosehope.
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I think I need more info as well! My daughter is a bit younger (11) so hasn't shown interest in boys/dating or that sort of thing, but I think my dh pushes her, rather than protects her. We both sort of have the philosophy that being a strong, independent woman is the best protection, so she's been taught to say NO, to stand up for her beliefs, to be physically strong, etc.
Now, if anything or anyone were threatening her, or if a boy were manhandling her, I know he'd definitely "protect" her, but he isn't one of those overbearing dads that coddles and won't allow out of the house.
That said, we believe strongly in chivalry in our family, so my boys open doors for both dd and myself, we enter rooms first, etc, both my boys (dh and ds) were taught to honor women and treat them with respect. My son has been taught to protect his sister when necessary, but she's meaner than him, so I don't he's had to that often!
"The main part of intellectual education is not the acquisition of facts but learning how to make facts live."
-- Oliver Wendell Holmes
*sigh*
Renee'
Mom to Kayti and Keeli and furbabies Meggie,  Lucie and Pixie
If you mean protective in an ordinary, fatherly sort of way, yes, he is. But if you mean a "lock her in a convent with a big high wall" sort of way, then no.
Then again, she's not really interested in dating right now. There are boys she likes, but she knows neither she nor they are mature enough to go out, so she says she's waiting a few years until "they grow up." (her words, LOL)
I think if she were really worldly and boy-crazy, DH might worry a bit more. I also think this has a lot to do with how he was as a young man. He was raised by a very gentlemanly father and is himself a gentleman, so he expects other boys to be that way, too.
>>But if you mean a "lock her in a convent with a big high wall" sort of way, then no
Yeah, that's kind of more what I was thinking. And I mean when your DD is of the age to start taking notice of boys.
Hey Liz and Arryl - hi and good to "see" you around.
Some moms don't think it's a good thing for dads to be protective. They've said it was too 1950s and wouldn't it be awful if the DD never dated?
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