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Fri, 01-09-2009 - 4:21pm

Do you allow your kids to go over to a friends house knowing that their parents are not home?


My SO thinks their is nothing wrong with allowing 13 yr old SD to go over to her friends house when her parents are not home.

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Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 4:30pm

At age 13, no parents = My kids

 

 

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Registered: 07-26-1999
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 4:47pm

It depends on the friends.

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Registered: 04-25-2006
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 4:54pm

SD can be trusted, but it is her friend that we have our doubts about.

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Registered: 08-11-2007
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 5:00pm
I'm with you and I know that most of Gab's friends can not even have friends over if the parents are not home.At 12 or 13 there is too much to get into.Now if your sd has a really good friend that you trust and you want to go to dinner or a movie it MIGHT be ok to let her hang with the friend to keep her company.However as a general rule of thumb I would say no way.I also probably would not leave my almost 13 year old home by herself all day.I would not have a problem wit a few houses,but I would not want her home alone all day day after day.That said my dh doen't even like to run to the store which is 5 mins a way and leave Gab here.

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Registered: 05-22-2006
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 5:17pm
I agree completely with Nicole! Sorry, nothing more to add.




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Registered: 05-22-2006
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 5:19pm
Then I would say absolutely not - that's just troubling.




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Registered: 08-11-2007
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 5:24pm
Agreed.Gabby has maybe one friend that I would trust to be at my house if I was not there.However,I just would not becomfortable leavingg them.Her other friend are nice enough,but they are 12 and 13 enough said...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 5:39pm

I'm OK with it, with certain friends only, but for short durations. If my son is at a friend's home and the mom needs to run to the store (usually to help feed my son!), then yeah, I'm OK with it. I really can't think of a friend he has that I don't feel that trust, but honestly I don't really encourage friendships with kids unless I do have a certain level of trust and confidence in.

If the mom isn't home from work yet and it will be hours before a parent is home, no I wouldn't feel at all comfortable with that.

So there's my non answer. Depends on the friend and depends on the duration/circumstances.

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Registered: 01-17-2004
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 6:19pm
I do allow my daughter to go to a friend's house with out an adult present.
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Registered: 09-10-2007
In reply to: cmp1681
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 7:10pm

I agree with you. As recently as New Years Eve Alexis went to a 'party' when I knew the parents weren't going to be home for a portion of the time. She has often been at friends when parents were gone and they have been here before while I was away.


This of course is with a group of girls that I've known forever and pretty much trust. Some of the new friends I am a little more iffy on.


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