Sneaking on the internet...

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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 9:48am

Hi

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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 11:29am

Welcome to the "but... but

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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 12:24pm
Welcome to the board. Just as turtletime said every kids is going to do stupid things at times, even the best of them. That's how they learn, and if they don't learn by making some boneheaded mistakes on their own, they will never truly learn. The punishment should definitely fit the crime, and it sounds like you've done a good job of that, you just need to remember to be reinforcing why she got in trouble, because she went behind your back to do something you told her not to do and has lost your trust. She must regain your trust during and after the punishment is over. Once it's over, if you decide to go ahead and let her have a facebook account, you just need to set up expectations and ground rules about using the Internet and Facebook correctly, especially about settings, privacy, not revealing too much personal information, etc.
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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 5:16pm

I have passwords for my kids accounts and all security are set up.

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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 5:32pm

Your girls have FB accounts?

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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 5:56pm
Heather, there is supposed to be, and I know they have talked about doing a FB for the younger crowd... My nephew who just turned 8 last week has one! I know it's mostly just to play that farm game and to connect with family since they were military and they have family all over the country, but I know I was a but surprised when I got a friend request from him almost a year ago.
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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 5:57pm

Yes but kids lie about their ages all the time--it's not like FB asks to see the birth certificate.

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Registered: 11-19-2010
Sun, 06-26-2011 - 6:27pm

Heather, They are my accounts that I put their names on. My email adresses so I get everything.

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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 7:01pm

Either I'm really stupid or it seems (to me at least) that the "helicopter mom" syndrome is going around.

Personally, My 17 year old has had a facebook account for a long time now, but does she use it. No not really. She texts more than anything. My 14 year old has a Facebook account, does he use it. Probably but just to connect with artists and companies that he likes. Does my 11 year old have a facebook account. No and he probably won't because he's too interested in Little Big Planet 2 or watching his older sister play some video game that she's bought.

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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 8:28pm

Stupid I don't know, but naive maybe, head in the sand maybe.

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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 12:26am
It may be stupid to you and if your own kids are into it than they aren't into it. However, I'd not pretend your situation is the norm. Facebook is far more powerful with the younger generation than you think. DD and her friends FB more than they text. They check FB on their phones while they are out and about. They share pictures with masses of people and it's where they plan events.

Of course it would seem silly to you to have codes for a program your children don't use but don't worry. I'm sure you and your family do lots of stuff I'd think is stupid and ridiculous too.

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