Ugh- advice needed quickly please.

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Registered: 08-21-2000
Ugh- advice needed quickly please.
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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 5:10pm

Hello again, everyone....

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2001
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 6:17pm

I'd talk with both the principal and your grandfather, and ask that the plan be changed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-1999
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 6:49pm

Since it is already set up it might be difficult to change at the last minute and might be considered disrepectful of the VFW members.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 7:27pm
Hugs to her! I was much like she is in middle school and high school, but as the years have went on, I have gotten much more comfortable with these types of situations, though I still hate speaking in public. I am not sure I have much advice, maybe since her grandfather will be there just have her focus on him and how proud he is of her and less on the getting the award in front of everyone part.

Let us know how it goes!
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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2000
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 8:45pm

That is my husband's view - suck it up and do it - I just hate to see her SO upset over something that is supposed to be rewarding.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 9:53pm

I don't have a problem with these types of events (not that I'm "honored" with any regularity, lol!) but I think that the "suck it up" advice STINKS! It sounds like your dd is really miserable about this- not feeling a little awkward or not knowing what to say, but "I feel like I'm going to throw up" miserable (actually, she sounds like, " I AM going to throw up" - perhaps on the presenter). If I were you, I'd call your grandfather tonight and lay down the law- say, "I love you and I'm so happy that you wanted to do something special to honor dd, but this just won't work. Dd has an anxiety issue and the thought of being in this type of situation is literally making her ill. I am contacting the principal tonight to let him/her know that I will be keeping dd at home until we speak and I make sure that dd won't be put into this situation."

NO ONE can really know how your dd is feeling, but it sounds like this is way more than just your average nerves or teenage embarrassment. Most professionals advise NOT forcing shy/anxious kids into new situations,

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2000
Wed, 02-15-2012 - 7:20am

I'm going to contact the principal this morning.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2001
Wed, 02-15-2012 - 7:34am

There are uncomfortable situations and then there are panic inducing situations. I don't think this is something that should be forced on anyone.

Even in adulthood, people will avoid public reception of awards.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2000
Wed, 02-15-2012 - 7:37am

True, ekmama.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2001
Wed, 02-15-2012 - 1:30pm

How did everything work out?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2000
Wed, 02-15-2012 - 3:26pm

I found out they are scheduling the award for next week.

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