What if you don't like the BOY your DD wants to date?
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|Mon, 09-10-2012 - 2:18pm|
Two years ago, Kenzie liked this boy, V! He is a year older and so last year, he went off to HS! We didn't like this boy, because of the way he leads her on, seems to be a "ladies man" and plays into the girls; at least that is how we see it from what she tells us about him, what we see when we've been at the school or when we have looked on FB. We are always telling her to dream on and we won't permit K to date him. He even promised K that he would ask her "out" the first day of school (which he did not), told his friends he likes her (they stop and say, "hey that's the girls V likes") and I told her, "Come on, kiddo your dreaming. Let's forget about this boy!" She is still holding out that he will ask her to homecoming and date her. I've told her, you will only go to homecoming with your BFF! No one else. BFF's mom and I even agreed that the girls should just go together, but she is determined...I'm going to get asked, end of story! Homecoming is less than two weeks away and I told her this weekend, time is running out! She said, "it's homecoming mom, it doesn't take a lot to plan!" Like I haven't gone to a homecoming? LOL Dh and I went to 3 Homecomings together, thank you very much!
At a recent parade, I saw him and he did react positively when he saw Kenzie. Then he proceded to send her texts. I'm not certain if he knows that we don't want her dating him, but she knows he's forbidden with us, thus far!
I'm scared we are setting ourselves up for a closet dater, but DH and I just have a bad feeling about this kid from things he has done. Sure he's a star football player, student and musician, but we just can't help our feelings about him! But not only that, her break up of her boyfriend this spring, didn't go over well and I am not certain she could handle the let down of this if it goes bad. This kid is pretty well known and girls definitely have their eye on him too. I think it would get rubbed in her face, like it did last time (she dated a star athlete in the spring) and she is not 100% yet!
On another note, she promised herself and us that she would focus on her sport and studies; which I keep holding her to it, but are we doomed? I asked DH this morning, "are you going to give in? Do you think we are making him more appealing by saying NO?"
I guess I just want to know if anyone has gone through this and allowed their DD to date someone they weren't comfortable with. Are our gut feelings right? Should we follow that? Or do we need to just let her figure it out on her own? I probably know the answers to it, but we just have a bad feeling with this kid...