yikes...back again with a question about taking DD overseas for 6 months

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yikes...back again with a question about taking DD overseas for 6 months
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Fri, 09-16-2011 - 6:46pm

Here's what's happening:

My DH has got a 6-month research sabbatical in India and wants us to go with him.

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She gave a tiny, tiny smile just now..so maybe she will get used to the idea in the next 2 months????
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Hugs, that is a hard one. We went through the same discussions when DH potentially was going to be sent to either Germany or Italy with the army and ODD thought it was the end of the world. I think one way you want to spin it is it is an opportunity of a lifetime, life abroad, learning a new culture, or family heritage it sounds like, getting to spend some time with her grandmother who I am assuming she hasn't been able to, etc. She wouldn't be completely shut off from friends back home I assume? It is a hard one, I'm trying to think if anyone else on the board may have some experience with this,but i'm not coming up with anyone off the top of my head.
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We just went through this, with a possible move to England. One kid was thrilled; the other was not. We decided not to go because of extended family issues, but any other time, we would have gone. When we were still considering it, we told the kids that even things that turn out to be beneficial for everyone often have hard beginnings. But the tough part doesn't last forever as long as you are fully committed to trying.

And in six months, your DD's friends will not forget her. They will likely think she is more special and cooler when she comes home. This has happened with every kid we know who has done a temporary overseas move, and we live in a community where most families take vacations overseas at some point.

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Thanks so much. I am also telling DD that we will be back in 6 months and she won't be stuck there. Today was her birthday and she woke up excited and happy about the day. So I am hoping she will get used to the idea in due course.

Chimi
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DD says everyone is "brain-washing" her that this is a great opportunity and she is sick of hearing goody-goody things about the move. Anyway, I am hoping she will come around and I am thinking maybe an 8th grader from the new school in India can be a pen pal and tell her what to expect there.

Thanks arryly for your thoughts,
Chimi
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So I assume you all did not go to Europe?
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What a great opportunity!! I would focus on all you can do there. and keep going on how it is just temporary!!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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I do hope she goes and has a wonderful time. Does she speak any Hindi? Has she been to India before? I know English is widely spoken in India so at least she will understand some of the time. I think she would propbably feel the same if she was going somewhere else in America. Can she think of it as an extended vacation?

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She does not know Hindi; hence she is terrified. But she will go to an American school where kids from 23 other nationalities are coming and the princi keeps assuring us that our kids will be very happy there.

Chimi