10 year old refuses to sleep in own bed.
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10 year old refuses to sleep in own bed.
| Wed, 11-01-2006 - 10:35am |
I'm new to this site. I would like some help with my son. He refuses to sleep in his own bedroom with has caused a real problem with my husband he sleeps on the couch. Whenever i tell my son he has to sleep in his room he complains he's sick. We have even went as far as buying him a new bedroom set. He has everything he wants in their tv computer,phone. This has put a real strain on our marriage. I need help on what to do to get him out of my bed into his without losing sleep and my mind. He is 10 and it is getting a little uncomfortable for me to have him in there, don't you agree. has anyone out there had the same situation? Thank you!Dawn

Hi- New here. My son recently started doing this, about the time school started...coming to our room in the middle of the night, wanting to sleep with us. Previously, he hadn't done that since he was about 3. We changed his bed set-up too:) I think some of it is their growing awareness of the world around them. They understand that there are bad people/things out in the world & let's face it--it's scary! I'm not sure if their changing hormones make them wake more in the night. I finally told my son it was not acceptable--I told him if he HAD to come to our room, he had to make a bed on the floor & not wake us up.
You are not alone!
Kim
Been there Dawn. Except its my DD. She is 11.5 and I would say finally about a month ago she started sleeping in her bed consistently. I am a single Mom though so I don't have the same issues you did, just that I wanted my own bed. I didn't want to turn it into a battle but we started with a reward chart. For everynight you get a star and after 14 nights in a row you get something BIG, or you can make it work for you. Now that she has been doing it consistently, she would still some nights like to come into my bed, but I simply don't allow it now. (although periodically she creeps in sometime in the night because of a bad dream or she was cold the other night - as lon as she goes back to her bed the next night I don't
I can't say I have any suggestions, but I do know where you're coming from. Our dd will be 12 in Feb. She's been promising to start sleeping in her own bed since she was 8. We have managed to get her out of our bed, but not entirely out of our room. She will sleep on the couch in the living room, on the floor in our bedroom or on the floor in her little brother's room (he's 8). Anywhere but in her own bed/room.
Like you, we fixed her room up just the way she wanted it. That's been almost 2 years ago now and she still makes excuses for not sleeping there. She also wants to have the TV, which we allowed for a short time, but had to yank that because she and her brother both would get up in the middle of the night and turn it on. I just don't think they can get good sleep with the TV on. Also, they both want to keep all the lights on. I also don't think people can sleep well with a lot of light in the room.
All I can think is that our kids hear so much about bad things in the world, they are just full of insane fears. I try to keep my kids from becoming like that, but the influences of other kids telling stories, the times that they see something frightening on TV at someone else's house, the times that we're trying to see tomorrow's weather and have to listen to the "top stories" about all the rapes, shootings, kidnappings, etc. It's just all too much! I keep hoping that as she matures she will begin to put some of this in perspective. My dh and I really try to de-emphasize all those "dangers" and hysterics. I just hope the longer she lives and sees that nothing bad is happening, the more she'll start to believe that nothing bad is GOING to happen.
I am probably the wrong person to respond, b/c I am pretty strict when it comes to bedtime!
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