10 yr old son

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10 yr old son
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 5:07pm
Hi, hope you can help me out here. We've just moved this summer to a different state. Both my sons have started new schools of course. Last year we had a problem with my then 9 yr old not turing in his homework. I know he did it, because he'd show me and I'd have to sign it, but for some reason he never turned it in. Also, he was very well liked and popular in his old school.

I thought things would change here, mainly because we are now living near family, whereas before we were kind of on our own. He started fifth grade and his teacher has just called to tell me he hasn't recieved any homework from my son since the beginning of school! I see him doing it, I've asked him if he's completing and turning in homework and he tells me he is. His teacher also tells me my son is reserved and quiet. No matter how much i try to talk to him he won't tell me the reason for not turning in homework and now that he seems to also have developed a personality change at school I am very worried. What can I do to help him?
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In reply to: sedmorse
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 5:18pm

Hi!!

Sherrie Rainbow

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In reply to: sedmorse
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 7:43pm

Kevin (my 11 y.o.) did this in 3rd grade ... he was 'testing' the teacher to see how long it took her to notice.

Nancy 

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In reply to: sedmorse
Tue, 09-23-2003 - 8:38pm

Moving is a big change, and at this age, it may take time for your ds to develop new friends. I think it's worth talking to the school counselor, both regarding the homework, and the personality changes you've seen. Perhaps he/she can get your ds to open up so that he can be reassured about what is stressing him. Are there any boys he might be interested in inviting over for a play date to get to know them better? Are there even 2-3 boys you could have over for a video and pizza one evening to help your son get in the social swing? I know my kids switched schools last year, within the same district, and they're still trying to fit in, so it's not easy for all kids.


Welcome to our board, and please let us know how you and your son are doing.


Janet

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Registered: 05-02-2003
In reply to: sedmorse
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 12:25am
I'd forgotten that!! When Sean was doing this, part of the threat we made was that Robert would walk him (hand in hand) to his room and loudly announce that Sean needed an escort to make sure that his homework was turned in. Never had to do it, but we noticed a 180 degree turn around.

Best Always,

Sherrie

Sherrie Rainbow

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In reply to: sedmorse
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 2:25pm
Thanks for all the replies; sorry it took me awhile to find my way back here-this is a huge forum!

I talked to him yesterday, but still no reason forthcoming why he doesn't turn in completed homework. I've taken his X-box and other entertainment away. As for friends, he comes home and tells me about them-like one lives near us, an I give his mom a call so they can visit each other etc. I let him use the phone (in moderation) and he has friends calling here. So I'm not sure what's going on there. I've asked and he tells me he likes his teacher.

Also, Thanks for the embarrassment ideas! I am very sure he wouldn't like me holding his hand, walking him to class just to make sure he turns in his homework! I can't wait to give him that one =)