11 year old girl experimenting with sex
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11 year old girl experimenting with sex
| Thu, 01-10-2008 - 6:04pm |
My 11 year old daughter has pushed me to the limit. Seems there is nothing she wont do. Everything that is inappropriate she does and says it is because she is trying to grow up or at least be older. She skipped a year in school so she is in 7th grade and tells everyone she is 13. About 4 months ago the problems started with alcohol. She tried it I caught her it didnt happen again. Until I allowed her to go to a birthday party that was supposed to be supervised but the kids went out and got drunk and oh my god stoned. After talking to the police about that seems I have gotten no where cause now she just experimented with sex. Im going out of my mind. Someone help!!!!

Clamp down. She's 11, she can't drive anywhere. I would also consider switching schools to get her away from those kids. My DD is in Grade 7 and there are no school parties like that. Don't be afraid to call other parents and ask what is going on, if they will be there. She has shown you time and again that she can't be trusted so don't. Don't believe a word she says. Walk her to the door of school in the morning and be waiting to pick her up afterschool. Pick her up for lunch and take her back when the bell rings. (If you can do this.) But at 11 she should not have the same ability to just take off as a 15 year old. I would also take her to the Dr. and have her checked out for STDs (might scare her having to have all those tests) and ask the Dr. to recommend a therapist for her to see. Something is going on beyond "normal" tween stuff so you need to get to the bottom of it.
Good luck.
You need help now. Get her in to see a counselor tomorrow. Start with your doctor and get some references, then start calling.
And ITA with Tam, you need to switch schools and get her out of that environment. When there's trouble, change your playmates and change your playpen.
I totally agree with all the advise you have been given.
Tighten her reins, an 11 year old does not need as much freedom as you are giving her, particularly one who has demonstrated that she can't be trusted.