11 yr old wants to go to concert

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Registered: 07-27-2004
11 yr old wants to go to concert
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 1:35am

My name is Tannis and this is my first post. I am so glad I found this page.

Here is my concern.......My 11 yr old daughter wants to go to a concert with her 16 yr old sister! The 16 yr old is an amazing loving sister, to the 11yr old. The concert tickets were a "sweet sixteenth" b-day gift to her older sibling and she had asked my 11 yr old to attend. I am so nervous. I remember what concerts were like when I was 16.I read the article written by experts "My daughter wants to go to a Rock Concert" and the article said itd be o.k.

What would you do?




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Registered: 03-23-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 9:37am
I think it depends on the concert. Different bands get different kinds of crowd, so I would look into this first. If its a band that tends to get an older teen crowd, or is known for a wilder crowd I would be more cautious, than a band known for a younger or more subdued crowd.

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Registered: 08-20-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 11:42am

What concert is it?

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Registered: 06-08-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:14pm

Hello Tannis!!

Welcome, welcome.

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Registered: 07-27-2004
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 2:09am
Thank you for your replies. They want to see "Usher" and Kanye West--> who is a rapper with good message ie the song called "Jesus walks".Usher sings love songs

My daughters older sister is a very nurturing kind girl who often combes and braids my youngest hair. They are half sisters.The oldest is not my own. They dont like to say that they are half sisters...they are so close. Their father bought the tickets.I know that the forum will have security at all entrances. I would meet them at the gate.But still I am so nervous.


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Registered: 07-30-1997
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 10:32am
Unless it's someone completely different, the Usher songs I've heard have some very nasty lyrics, like the song 'Yeah'. I don't let ds(12 in 2 weeks) listen to them, much less let him go to a concert. That's just me.

Also, if it's to be a treat for the 16 year old, I'm not sure I'd insist the 11 year old should tag along. Just my $.02.


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Registered: 06-08-2004
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 12:55pm
I'm pretty out of touch with the newer music (did I just hear an echo from my childhood - nah, can't be LOL).

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Registered: 07-12-2004
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 2:23pm

I consider myself to be a pretty hip and with it mom (I'm 29, my dd is 11), and we listen to the same music, but I don't think I'd let my 11 yr old go to Usher and Kanye West.


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Registered: 06-08-2004
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 4:46pm

Hi Jeni,

We're so glad that you popped in and offered your opinion about this.

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Registered: 07-27-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 3:16am
Hi.Thanks for your responce.

I didnt buy the gift for my daughters sister's b-day

These 2 sisters have 2 different moms!

The big sister wants to bring my babe.

I want to say No!

but then I think I am wrecking big sis b day plans

and my lil one would hate me (for a while)

So then I was trying to justify by saying.....They have security at every gate

and the other band named "mace" was a preacher!

Its not like going to see Iron Maiden or Marilyn Manson

Who am I fooling?

Wish I was a perfect parent...only those "without" kids are perfect parents

Maybe big sis will change her mind?

maybe I will get tough!

what a weak mother I am
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Registered: 06-08-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 1:21pm

<<...only those "without" kids are perfect parents >>
Too true, too true.

I don't think you're weak, I think you're trying to make everyone happy (except yourself).