12 yr old and Teddies

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12 yr old and Teddies
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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 9:17am

Hi:

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 9:25am

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 9:49am
I will admit, I don't have much experience with raising boys, but I would agree with Ashmama that the climbing into bed with you is more concerning than the teddy bear issue. My DSS still has a blanket that he sleeps with, in fact he left it at our house this summer when he went back home and that was the only thing he cared that he had left behind and we got calls every day asking when we were sending it back to him (he didn't say it was his blanket he wanted, but it was pretty obvious that's what was important to him). As for the bed issue, I would just explain to him that he is a male and you are a female, he is old enough to understand that it is no longer appropriate for you two to sleep in the same bed, just as it wouldn't be appropriate to see each other in the shower, etc. Anytime he move into your bed in the middle of the night, I would just gently remind him he has his own bed and it is better for him to sleep and be comfortable in there.
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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 10:15am

12-year-old boys can look all grown-up and

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 11:25am

Thank you all for your response.

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 2:31pm

Sounds like you already got the responses you need, but I'll just add:

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 9:18pm
My ds is 13 and still has his blanket, he has it on his bed, ne does not cuddle it, but still has it folded up and under his pillow. His dad and I are married, but he will still lay in bed with one of us to watch a movie. I don't see a problem unless he can't sleep with out them or is always in your bed.

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Thu, 11-10-2011 - 10:47am

Thank you.

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Thu, 11-10-2011 - 10:53am
I guess it's not a huge problem (yet) but didn't want it to become one. He comes into my bed only when he wakes to go to the washroom otherwise he sleeps in his own bed but he has not yet stopped sleeping with a couple of his favourite teddies. I'm going to leave that alone tho - thks for your input.
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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 9:08am

You're definitely not alone. My son is 12 and still has a HUGE collection of stuffed animals...pretty sure he got it from me since I was the same way when I was a kid :) I worry a little bit since it seems more acceptable for girls than boys but for now, I'm just letting it be.

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Sat, 11-12-2011 - 10:26am
My 13-year-old doesn't get in my bed with me, but he is still attached to his stuffed animals. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. When he goes to his Dad's, he brings a couple of favorites. He and his 13-year-old cousin, who also has a million stuffed animals and a blankie, sometimes even play games with them. My son is very mature in general and well-adjusted, lots of friends; I see the animals as his one last thing from childhood.

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