Hello other Mindy.
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I know this is late but I had to reply. My ds11 and ds9 both still have a few beanie babies they play with and a few stuffed animals on their bed. Maybe we're overindulgent, but we *all* talk about ds9's favorite bear beanie baby (Clubby II) as if he's real. He's so well known at school that when the kids had to make each other bookmarks in secret, the kid who designed ds9's included Clubby. Santa brought Clubby a new outfit last year. He's in a few family pictures as well. Ds11 isn't quite as attached, but he's home sick today and he is lying on the couch with his three beanie dogs, cuddled up. They both took their favorite to sleepaway camp this summer. You know, no one raised an eyebrow when my dd21 and dd19 had a few stuffed animals and their favorite American Girl doll out in middle school, and they seemed to have adjusted just fine and aren't emotionally stunted in any way (although ds9 did ask to include one of dd19's favorite stuffed animals in a care package we sent her last year :)).
As far as the bed thing, I'd be a little more leery, but honestly I don't think it's too big of a deal. Every kid is different and I think that probably plays into it more than anything else. Ds11 prefers sleeping alone, always has, and is an AWESOME sleeper. Ds9 has always been a bad sleeper, much more cuddly, and would sleep with us every night if we let him (we don't let him, but he'd love to- we do let him when he is sick). They'll grow up soon enough (speaking as the mom of two adult children).
II agree with the others about him climbing into bed with you, but both my 14 and 18 yo ds still sleep with stuffies. Not that
Lindamom to Alex (16), Rachel (14), Matthew (12)