12 yr Old Boy

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Registered: 01-30-2007
12 yr Old Boy
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 10:58am

I am not sure what to do with this situation.. is it normal? what should I do?

My son has been hanging out with his friends, skating, just having fun on the weekends and such for this year. He has changed, has grown moody, yells a lot, I can tell his hormones are changing, he will go from crying to yelling and happy all within a period of time. School is the last thing on his mind, which is sad, he has been grounded for months now. I keep telling him that he is going to fail 6th grade and he will have to repeat it. We shall see, I can see his grades are going up.. Anyway, thats not why I am writing.

My daughter (14) told me the other day that she wanted to come home because she was 'mad bored'. When I asked why, she said Kyle (my son) and Destiny (her friend) were constantly 'making out'. To say I was shocked was an understatement. My husband and I sat down and talked to him telling him that at 12 its inappropriate behavior... hes to young.. yadda yadda.. but it is still going on. We don't know what to do, I mean he is to young, and one thing can to lead to another.. he is still a child.

What do I do? Is this normal? I remember the grade, I had no interest in boys, let alone what 'making out' was... All I wanted to do was play out side, be with my friends...

Help!

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 2:22pm

Absolutely he is too young.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:14pm
I agree with you that 12 is way to young for such behavior!!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 6:40am
I was one of those 12 year olds who was *very* interested in boys! I'm not sure that freaking on the girls parents is going to help the situation. I would definitely let them know and they may be as upset as you are when they find out! She isn't some kind of twisted perv-she is a young girl interested in boys and thinks that this is what girls and boys who like each other do. You only need to read some of the teen range of mags to realize that this is the message alot of the indirectly send.
Are they at the same school? Can you give the teachers a heads up to what's going on if they are? If not then your ds can't be allowed to hang out with friends for a while so you can make sure he isn't meeting this girl on the sly. I hope he can see why you're so upset about it but he's hitting hormone alley so he probably won't be very receptive to parental input/wing clipping. Good luck
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