6th grade boys and girls

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Registered: 11-13-2006
6th grade boys and girls
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 10:15am
My son is almost 12 in 6th grade and starting puberty. He doesn't have any interest in girls, but all his friends are girl crazy. Is this unusual for his age? He gets uncomfortable when they start talking about them. He is slowly losing his circle of friends because he doesn't fit in. I don't know what to do.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 10:28am

My son is 15 and to be honest he'd rather spend his time playig legos, playstation, the computer or running around in the woods with his friends wearing camoflage! He notices girls but I think he gets disgusted at all 'attitude' girls come to school with. He had a 'nice girl' in 6th and 7th grade who was mousy and shy but I think it was for the label of having a girl friend. They attended ONE school dance where she just sat there and I think she came to his birthday party. Other than that they just hung out together with other friends. Not really a relationship and he never kissed her. He has one good friend who is a girl, but she's a tomboy and plays like one. She's really the only girl I see him enjoying being around, I just don't think he wants the drama and I don't worry about it. He definitely notices 'hot girls' and makes comments so I know he's ..ahem... interested.

On the other hand my 7th grade daughter has a boyfriend and he's always referring to his 'other ex-girlfriends' as if he's had tons of them. At 12 this makes me very uncomfortable.

If your son's friends start wandering away from him, perhaps you can plan activities for them that don't include girls. Take them to ride go-karts, play laser-tag..whatever they liked to do before girls. I understand you're worried about him losing friends, but in the larger picture I think your life is going to be a lot easier with him BEFORE he gets interested in girls!

Denise

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Registered: 05-15-2005
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:34pm

Lon is 14 and a freshman in high school - all the boys there talk about getting "hooked up" but Lon tends to stay to his own still.

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Registered: 11-13-2006
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:55pm
Thanks for your reply. That sounds a lot like my son. He wants to play all his sports and his playstation. Putting a lot of energy into learning how to skateboard these days. I think he might be intimidated by girls and it's easier to stay with his own. It just seems like he's really in the minority on this one.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 2:53pm

Yep that is pretty age appropriate and it started big time, I noticed anyway, around 5th-6th grade!



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