ADHD - Or is it the AGE?
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|Tue, 05-27-2003 - 6:33am|
Anyway, my biggest issue with Kevin right now is his totally weird behaviors. And, I do know that because there is such a huge contrast between his abilities and his behaviors it really grates on my nerves. For instance, this weekend he was playing in a tournament for his travel ball team. This is an 11 and under league, and he is one of the older players. This was his first tournament with this team. As one of the older players (and one of the better players) the coach is hoping (and expecting) him to be a 'leader.' Now, I watch him play ball ... first game, he played 'catcher' and he pretty much saved the game for them. On the ballfield, he is poised and focused and intense. They won the game, and the coaches all complimented him on how well he did, and what an asset he is to their team. But, in the car on the way to the park, he's talking like a baby, rambling on about stuff, intentionally antagonizing everyone (especially DH.) Or, between games, whenever he was near me or DH, he was being really argumentative and defiant. The constant Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde. He is really bright, but acts totally stupid (the male version of the dumb blonde!) We stayed at my sis' last night since she leaves near where this tournament was being played, and it was up in the air whether or not they'd be playing today ... and he asked DH if he wanted to shoot a game of pool, and instead of just walking to the game room like a normal 11 y.o. boy, he skipped ... with this goofy look on his face looking really effemenant (sp?) ... almost like Jack from Will & Grace.
I guess it just kills me because I see him in other settings ... karate, where he is a 1st degree blue belt, a member of the black belt club, where other parents tell me what a nice and helpful kid he is, how kind and patient his is, how helpful he is to kids in lower ranks ... or baseball, where he plays key positions (pitcher, catcher, short stop and first base) and is focused and intense and the complete vision of that "all American kid" living a great life ... or how his teachers in gifted program always say how responsible and helpful he is. Geesh! I'm not asking for perfections, but how about SOME of that evidenced at home with his family? DH tried to warm him up yesterday before the game because he was supposed to be the starting pitcher of the game ... and all Kevin did was whine and complain ... he didn't like the ball DH had, he didn't like the area DH selected, his arm hurt, he wanted to sit in my chair ... but as soon as the coaches got there, there's Mr. Sports-Guy all ready to play. Sigh!
Is this typical of ADHD kids? Or, is it about being 11 (balance between being a kid and a teen?) Am I just too sensitive or too easily annoyed? (I know I am but it is frustrating.) What do I do? Ignore it?