Advice for my 12 yr. old daughter

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2007
Advice for my 12 yr. old daughter
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 11:05am

Hi All:


I've posted on the boards for advice for my health; but this is the 1st for help with my daughter.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2007
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 12:18pm

Oh gosh, that is hard!


I don't know that I have any advice, because I would be here posting the question as well. I do want to give you a big (((hug))) though. I am sure the other ladies here will have great advice.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2003
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 2:35pm

Question - what would you hope to accomplish by confronting her?

 

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Registered: 01-31-2008
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 3:10pm

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 7:29pm

The only way you can get around saying you read it is to say "You know what I read on the internet today? A young girl someone knows in Grade 6 is pregnant. I know lots of girls your age like boys but I really think kids should wait until they are older to have sex and they must ALWAYS use birth control. Have any of your friends thought about having sex or have you heard of anyone at school doing it?" Then you can start and independent conversation about your values and letting her know that she can ALWAYS come to you with questions. Lots of what she wrote may be fantasy and pretending to be more grown-up than she is. She might be terrified by the real concept but she can imagine how romantic it would be, because that's what grown-ups do.


But I think that is the way to bring it up. Don't mention her but talk about sex and waiting and the dangers of it (disease and pregnancy) and hope that the message gets through. Even if she denies everything she will hear your message.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2007
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 12:45pm

Hi,


Thank you for taking the time to answer my question.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2007
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 12:48pm

I don't have anything to accomplish.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2007
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 12:50pm

Thank you for your advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2007
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 12:53pm

Thank you for your advice.