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| Sun, 08-12-2007 - 6:54pm |
I am SO happy to have found this board! I am not sure when it was created, and I have been a member of parentsplace for years - but, nonetheless, I am glad the board is here! *lol*
My name is Tracy, I am 39 yo, married for going on 10 years to my wonderful dh (38 yo) have a dd named Alliye (13.5 yo) and ss named Michael (13 yo).
Sometimes they can be good as gold and other times they can drive me NUTS! HA! I have found that it is SO much easier raising a boy than a girl. I don't know if us girls are just too dramatic and emotional or what. But I can tell you that my dd drives me SO crazy at times that I don't know what to do with her.
Does anyone else have problems with their female teenager? Mine hates school (other than the social aspects of it) and hates having to study or do homework or anything like that at all. I have to fight tooth and nail to get her to do anything when it comes to school. I have also bribed her, grounded her, etc.... but it only seems to make the situation worse. I could use any and all suggestions that you are willing to give.
My dd starts back to school on August 30th and will be in the 8th grade. My dh and I have told her that in no uncertain terms will she have a social life this year whatsoever unless she brings home straights A's and B's. That at the beginning of school she will not be allowed to go to dances, friend's bday parties, etc., unless we are seeing her do all of her work correctly every night and making the grades.
She also has a very rude mouth that we are trying to curtail as well and not having any luck with that. When she's disrespectful she is punished by getting extra chores, and/or being grounded. However, that doesn't seem to work either. It's gotten so bad at times that I have started looking for an all girls' ranch to send her to, so that maybe she'd see just how good and easy of a life she has here at home with us and start appreciating us and her life more.
Any words of advice would be appreciated. Sorry, this was a little longer than I had planned. I can't wait to get to know all of you!
Hugs,
Trac~ :)

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Welcome Trac. My DD is going into Grade 7. Fortunately grades are important to her so while she might not like doing the work, she knows its what she has to do. No great advice from me but some of the other ladies might have some excellent ideas. I would say don't be too harsh to start with, see how it goes, but for us school comes first. Want to go to a movie with friends but have a science project? Then I guess you aren't going to the movies. Just be consistent and be prepared for a major backlash at first. Kids hate change.
Good luck and look forward to getting to know you and your family better.
Hi Tracy,
So glad you found us and welcome to the board!!!!
I am Laura, A community leader here and also a full time college student and SAHM to Emily(13.6), Jordan (8.8) and Carys (4.3) and we are in IL!
Jump in and help us get to know you better!!!!!
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HI there Trac
I'm Joy, mom to 2 boys, Chris 14 and Ryan 11.
Welcome to the board Tracy, looking forward to getting to know you and your family!
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Thanks, Tam - I appreciate your feedback. I WISH grades were important to my dd as well, but they just are not. School is very important to both my dh and I and we have stressed and stressed the importance of it to her, but it just isn't sinking in that thick skull of hers. It's very frustrating at times, especially since I loved school all of my life and would love to go back to those "easy" days of my life! ha ha! This isn't going to be a change for her persay, as we have always been adament about school coming first - but again, all of our wasted breath to no avail. She always manages to pass but this year she had 2 d's on her report card, which was unacceptable. Not only that, if she had just tried a tad bit harder she'd made C's instead of D's. UGH!
Thanks again for your feedback - I truly appreciate you and look forward to getting to know you and your family better as well.
Hugs,
Trac~ :)
Thank you for the warm welcome, Caroline! I can see where this board is really going to come in handy this year! :) I look forward to getting to know you!
Hugs,
Trac~ :)
Hi Laura! Thank you for the warm welcome! You have three very beautiful children! :) What part of IL are you from? My husband has family all in that area and we are HUGE CUB fans! :) Thanks again and I look forward to getting to know you and your family more.
Hugs,
Trac~ :)
Hi Joy! Thanks for the warm welcome. Since moving out of State, my stepson is only with us for 6 weeks in the summer now and also the holidays, spring break, etc. However, even when he is with us full-time in the summer, he is mostly a joy compared to my dd. I honestly can take him shopping all day with me (by himself) and not buy anything for him and he is just as good as gold and appreciates the time I spend with him so much. His mom is not a good person and we have actually been fighting for full-custody of him for the last 10 years and it's been a hard road for him. I think that's why he is so good when he is with us as he gets attention, love and discipline (if needed) and he just enjoys being in a good, stable household with rules. I am sorry to hear about the smack you get from your three boys - and completely understand about the proud one minute and smacked in the face the next as that's what my dd does to me all of the time. I swear, she is going into the 8th grade and hasn't started her period yet - but I am hoping that when she does it will help her attitude - I may be in for a rude awakening and it get even worse though - *lol*
Thanks again and I look forward to getting to know you and your family more.
Hugs,
Trac~ :)
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