Am I a bad mom for laughing at my son?

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Registered: 09-12-2011
Am I a bad mom for laughing at my son?
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 2:09am

The other day, I was playing whiffle ball in the backyard with my son and two daughters. He is 14, they are 16 and 18. We didn't actually have a whiffle ball, so we were using a tennis ball, which is obviously a lot heavier. Anyway, my son pitched it to me, and I hit a line drive straight into his nuts! He fell down holding himself, and I was so surprised, I just burst out laughing, as did the girls. My son was kind of laughing too, but his face was bright red, and he was definitely in pain. He had been talking a lot of trash about how men are better at sports, telling his sister she throws like a girl, etc. so I guess I thought he was kind of getting his comeuppance. Later I thought maybe I should have tried not to laugh, since I know guys can be sensitive about that kind of stuff. Am I a bad mom for laughing? 

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 09-12-2011 - 8:58am
Welcome to the board! I'll start by saying that I don't have any boys. I think it depends on the boy also, I know my step son tends to be a lot more sensitive about things, so I am always thinking as much as possible before I react to things to see his reaction, or what i think his reaction will be, before I react. In this instance, it sounds like he took it okay, but also that it was something that was so instantaneous that I'm sure he probably understood. I'm sure others with boys will chime in and give you a better answer than me, but you may want to bring it up again just to say hey, I hope you didn't think I was laughing that you got hurt, or that the ball hitting you may have hurt, that was not my intent (or something of that nature).
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 12:16pm
I don't have a boy either but I think it would have been quite normal to laugh. Obviously he must be ok now .
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Registered: 11-19-2010
Mon, 09-12-2011 - 1:27pm

I have a 13 yr old and I never laugh when he gets hit there.

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 2:05pm

In that instance, I too would have laughed.

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Registered: 01-13-1999
Mon, 09-12-2011 - 5:10pm

In the same kind of situation, I probably would have laughed too.

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Registered: 12-06-1999
Mon, 09-12-2011 - 7:32pm

I would have laughed and he would not have been bothered by it.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Mon, 09-12-2011 - 7:56pm

You're not a bad mom. I'm sure I would have laughed, then cringed, then askedif he was okay. It's just a natural reaction to laugh I think. It's not becauee you were being mean.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Mon, 09-12-2011 - 8:36pm

I would never call someone a bad mom for something like that. It just happened. But I know my 14 yo DS is super sensitive and would be really hurt and I would apologize.

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 11:00pm

Thanks for your replies. I did talk to him about it just to let him know I wasn't laughing at him, and he just shrugged and said what else can you do but laugh in that situation. I was proud of him for having a good attitude. And relieved!